People with ex's are lucky

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I see a lot of people posting about their ex's... I'm 25 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I've managed by nothing short of a miracle to have had sex several times throughout my life (mostly through the aid of alcohol during college), but never been able to make anything significant of it afterward. I'd give anything to have an ex to brag about.

trust me you don't there is nothing worse than opening yourself and then getting hurt it just don't get better over night either there are a lot of hurtful emotions to go through then theres the gradually letting someone new in if you can.

I think the OP isn't getting as much about wishing he had an ex, but rather that he had the experience of the relationship. I can say, even now after it being over for some time, that every moment of my previous relationship was definitely worth it. For the first time since I was 14, I had an energy and motivation that was awe-inspiring. Because, for one short month, my life mattered. And apparently, it showed, because I somehow pulled a 3.4 GPA this semester, which is one of my highest semester GPAs in my college career (the only time I got higher was when all my courses were incredibly easy, as opposed to this time where I had a massive project in each one)

And I'd give anything NOT to have an ex to brag about. In fact, it's not something I talk about to anyone except my family. It is painful painful painful. It feels like my entire body is submerged and I barely have my nose and mouth above water, like I can drown at any minute.

I still talk about my ex's sometimes and it isn't painful. I used to talk about them all the time because it hurt. Even though you break up with them and you are not hurt you broke up with them, you are still hurt by how they treated you. I was just angry.

I think I'm going to be alone too. My situation isn't quite the same in that I have had previous partners but now it seems I am destined to be alone.

I don't feel lucky for having ex boyfriends. I feel lucky that the boyfriends I had are now ex's .

The up-side of having no past relationships is that if you ever do get into a relationship then your partner will know that you have nobody in your past to compare them with.

Was providing counterpoint; there are other upsides. Lack of baggage; lack of preconceptions based on experience (this does not preclude those from fantasy or upbringing); self-control. It's all a matter of perspective, and what you're looking for. Personally, I think experience works to advantage, both in better knowing what one as an individual wants themselves and in knowing that your partner chose you over other experiences instead of wondering what other possibilities might be out there that they chose to miss out on.


M.