How do you know if a relationship is over?

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How do you know when a relationship is over? I have been dating an Aspie and I have been very patient. I know he won't show emotion like an Nt, so I should not expect the textbook reactions. I talked to him and he says that he still loves me, and everything will be alright, but he is stressed. When he gets stressed he retreats into his world. He has been leaving the house durring the day more often, but he told me that was just because he needed his space. Usually I can read him decently, but now I just can't. read him at all. Recently, he has become withdrawn and he does not want to make love to me. I notice his sense of smell is stronger than usual too. He smells the corn chips that I was eating last night smelled like something burning. I don't know if it is just a dry spell or it is me. I won't go into detail, but I seem to be irritating him recently. It is all the little idiosyncratic stuff. I am so frusturated. I try to do right, but it seems to be messing up more than I am doing right.

Some other guy on here was talking about how when he gets no sleep, it smells like something is burning. That's all I got.

The easiest way of telling if a relationship is over is if they never call you or email you or text you, etc and you can ever gt a hold of them because they never return your calls or emails, etc. and also you two have not been seeing each other.


Another way of telling is if you see they have their profile back up on a dating site.

How do you know if the relationship is over when you live with the person?

They move out or tell you to move out.

When you are living parallel lives without any interaction, there is no positive association with the other person and no future hope, when animosity, resentment and tension are the most prevalent characteristics of your relationship. When you exclude each other from activities, and deception begins to not only occur but become commonplace.

However - I get more sensitive when I am stressed (in terms of sensory input - light, sounds, smells) and want to be away from even the people I care about most. Their efforts to communicate with me when I am at that point only triggers me further and leaves me overwhelmed.


M.

If he says he still loves you but is just stressed then I think you should beleive him. I do not think it indicates the relationship is over.

I think your best way of handelling the situation is to 'be there' for him and to 'love him anyway', just be strong and supportive and dont put any extra emotional pressure on to him, dont make him feel guilty for needing more space, just be patient.