LET ME FINISH!! !

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What is it with NTs and not letting people finish talking?

They ask you a question and before you can even get more than 3 words out they are telling you that you are wrong. But if they let you finish they would realize you weren't wrong. I have people do this to me all the time. Even my wife does it.

WHY? WHY WON'T YOU LET ME FINSH SPEAKING BEFORE TELLING ME I AM WRONG??? AAARRRGGHHH!

I hate it when people do that to me. They do it to me, all the time. If people would just let me finish, I would be a much happier person. No wonder so many aspies are diagnosed with clinical depression.

I hate that too and I don't know what it is. My husband does it, but he's ADHD and can't always help it so I'm more forgiving. He knows he does this so I say "stop talking" and he stops and waits. This approach was an agreement between us because he drives me crazy. This may work with your wife.

I think people do that because they are concentrating more on what they want to say rather than listening to you. Then when they are tired of waiting they interupt. I just tell them to please let me finish, or I stop talking all together. It depends on my mood

The wrong thing? With your wife, she probably thinks she knows what you are going to say so she's correcting you before you finish. Others? It's probably an ego thing.

I hear ya!

Yeah, that's agrivating to no end. The other one I hate is when people tell you you're wrong about something that happened and it's like "I was fricken there! Hello I know what I saw!"

A lot of people have "invalidation reflex". You say something and they immediately go "No, this isn't it".

Parents are often like that.

Regrettably, I do not think that this is an exclusively NT behaviour. I have great difficulty in knowing when it is my turn to speak in informal settings, and interrupting people was one of my problematic behaviours. I have worked a lot on biding my time until it is my turn and taking notes about the points I want to raise, but when I get tired or stressed, it is a behaviour into which I still regress.

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Last edited by Willard on 11 Jan 2010, 10:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I HATE it When People Do This To Me. Most Of The Time Its Members Of My Family Who Do It.

I thought this was a suicide thread, lol, because there's a book of suicide notes that was published and the book is called Let Me Finish.

Unfortunately, I often do this, but not because I'm unwilling to listen or automatically think people are wrong. It's because I have problems telling when someone's finished talking. What I hate is the hypocrisy; it's ok for people who have authority or are older to interrupt you, but if you interrupt them, it's rude.

Also: I love that argument sketch from Monty Python.

Constant issue. Wondering as of late if it due to the binary/dual form in how I try to speak generally - exposition first, then incorporation. Often I get interrupted or have questioned asked that would be explained if others would only be patient enough to let me finish the sentence coming out of my mouth. So... often I just stay quiet now.


M.

I think your outburst is very good, and I'ma let you finish, but Kanye West had the biggest outburst of all time! Of all time!! !

*dies laughing*

OP, it seems to be a trait that anyone with a passionate opinion on the subject has. They try so hard to make you see their side, they forget why they are even talking to you in the first place. Watch kids on a playground for a bit, you'll see what I mean.

totally annoying that is. Especially when they interupt you when you are answering their question. Why bothering asking the question if you are not going to listen to the full answer.

When they do that, I either just walk away or I talk LOUDER than them and sometimes shout if need be.

I have this argument with my daughter all the time. I'm afraid I'm the one who does the interrupting. She gets really cross about it. From my perspective, I have to. I'm sorry, but she will waffle on and on if I let her and it drives me insane. I have usually got her point with the first sentence and all the rest is waffle. It feels like she thinks that if she overloads me with information then I will agree with her point.

And when I ask a question, sometimes I need a quick answer. I most definately don't need every bit of information in her head surrounding the matter in a build up to giving the answer.