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I've been visiting Wrongplanet for quite some time now, and I thought I'd introduce myself. - The reason that I have come to know the existance of Wp is the possibility that I may have some form of Autism. Prior to this realization, I researched upon this topic as well as many forms of Pds, etc. I haven't been able to related to much of anyone yet in my life, and I thought these forums gave a close sense of ''belonging''. I may just be deluding myself. Don't want to stretch out my life story, although this information would help in giving some advice as to what I may or may not have. I appreciate the replies. - As a child, I wasn't able to talk till approximately 3 years of age. My mother placed me in preschool early in hopes that I gain some form of verbal communication (I wasn't mute, made noises). Embarassing to mention, but I still frequently make random noises just for entertainment. Haven't stopped. My parents aren't happy about it though. They say I should grow up. - I was ''hyperactive'' and have been told that I had ADHD by a child docter. My principal at the time didn't agree with the diagnosis, having dealt with me a lot (Always sent to the office). My mother worked in the school because she wanted to be close to me, if anything were to happen. My hyperactivity settled around grade 3. - Friends were never in abundance, not even close. I had/have trouble getting along with people, even online (I call it my personal aura; people avoid me). I don't understand other people much, and tend to make insensitive comments, sometimes without even realizing. I don't try being mean. - Being able to relate very little, I was pronounced wierd in High school. I was often teased, nothing too serious though. Just didn't like people asking and wondering why and how I don't have a sexual drive. - This is when I lost my 8 year long friend, at the begining of Secondary 5. She was someone I could talk to, and be more myself with. She was immature, and greatly energetic. Once she started dating, she all but forgot about me. She says she didn't, but she stopped talking to me and focused her entire attention on her boyfriend(s) (Since there was more later on). She was one of my interests, and it damaged me. - Sorry if this isn't pertinent. - Momentarily, I'm in college and having a difficult time with stress. I am prone to having anxiety attacks and my grades fall as a result. Taking tests is hard. Not a matter of knowing the subject, it's the atmosphere at the time of the exam. - I've all but stopped playing Star Wars Battlefront for studying. I've played this one game for 5-6 years as of now. I Never get tired of it. I can play all day. I don't understand why people keep buying other FPS games when they all resemble one another. Star Wars is fine for me. Saddens me that there's very few people who still play... - Despite my difficulties in understanding another, I do have a girlfriend. She's caught in a very bad moment in her life, having quite the family issues. I try to cheer her up and she respects that, but it doesn't always work. Making her happy has become a goal of mine. She's a gentle soul. - As you may imagine we have problems in communication, but my post seems long and neverending so I will end it. It also seems like I lost myself at some point. - Questions would help me specify. I seem to be having a problem not generalizing. *Thinks he shouldn't have written post*

I was thinking "Unh-hunh, Unh-hunh." as I was reading your post and thinking how I have experienced so much of the same (except I was diagnosed as ret*d even though I was reading before kindergarten) and then I read where your goal is to make your girlfriend happy. NOOooooooo. You must not do that. You can make it your goal to do good things for your girlfriend, but never, never to make her happy. You cannot do anything about her moods. My husband was always trying to make me happy when I was depressed and getting frustrated when all the nice things he was doing didn't work. I kept telling him that he didn't make me depressed and that he couldn't make me undepressed. It took years for him to get that message. Please don't you take that long.

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I can understand what you mean Lelia. It's heart warming seeing a smile on her face though. She spends a lot of time crying. When caring for one, I suppose you have the want for them to be joyful in their lives. - I don't have the compulsive need to make her happy. Of course, I do things to make her in a happier state, but it's almost entirely out of caring appreciation and love. Her being ''Happy'' is somewhat out of reach and I don't believe it could be obtained in her situation at the moment. - I make reference to being there when she cries, hugging her when she feels alone, making her feel appreciated, giving her some attention, etc. - Maybe I just misphrased it. - I accept her, whatever her mood may be. - I don't have an expectation that my actions will change her mood. I simply do them because I care for her. - I believe that is what's important.

Hello DarthKira, welcome, enjoy your stay on the Wrong Planet!

Welcome to WP!

Welcome to WrongPlanet.

To WrongPlanet!! !

Thank you for the welcomes. - Hope I can find more about myself through sharing here.

Welcome! I know that the Darth part of your name is obviously a Star Wars reference, but is the Kira bit after Light Yagami from Death Note?

EDIT: I have a friend who's obsessed with Star TREK...

Hehe, Think you made a little mistake. Darth is from Star Wars. Yes, Kira is from Death Note. I enjoy science fiction, as well as Japanese anime very much.

Edit: Ah I see. No problem ^^

I facepalm my very awful mistakes. I know darn well it's Star Tre- I mean Wars, I mean Trek, I mean...

And Death Note rocks! Great choice!

DarthKira.... I'am your father

So you are one of those starwars fans already a top mark from me, im superboyian and im one of the fellow aspies on Wrongplanet.
Make yourself feel comfortable and may the force be with you.

Can I ask? How much would you know about Star Wars?

Welcome to WrongPlanet!

Hi DarthKira!

Immediately my heart goes out to that girl of yours. Just keep doing what your doing for her. I'm exactly the same when it comes to someone i love.
As to the earlier part of your post:
I too make random noises. Many people would tell me to grow up. I dont listen to them. I see children acting like children at a grocery store. Talking in a kiddy voice. I think, Now that's sweet! Then the parent yells at them for acting like a baby. I immediately dislike those kind of parents.
Nothing wrong with it at all. I start making up silly ditties now or rhymes or sing weird songs that dont make any sense. It's relaxing for me. My father even joins in when he's there. That helps!
I wouldn't worry or feel ashamed about the whole noisemaking if i were you. If it entertains you and/or helps to make things less tense, Go with it!
I was and still am rather hyperactive. It's settled down somewhat now. But i can still get a bit bouncy!
I too feel like i have the "Avoid me" Aura.
Many more of the things you've stated i have felt and gone through. Except i have a really high sex-drive and i was severely bullied in a very major way through school.
Being this stressed and anxious through your studies and tests i can understand. I have been the same.
Dont be afraid to ask for help at college. Talk to your teachers and tell them that the atmosphere of it get's to you. See if you cant take the tests more privately. They may refuse but it doesnt hurt to ask!
By the way, i have been diagnosed with Aspergers. It was only a little over a year ago. I don't know if you have it. I wouldn't want to presume that you do. I'd suggest talking to a professional. Research with them Autism (Including Asperger's) and what it might mean for you.
Best of luck,