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On a scale of 0-10, 0 being not annoying at all, and 10 being the most annoying, how would you guys rate your parents, and why?

For starters, I would rate my parents as a 5, because they are supportive of me, they care about me, and they care about my issues, but Dad can be kind of annoying when he tells me to stop looking up at ceiling fans, stop clearing my throat, stop rubbing my fingers together, and stop making weird noises, and my Mom can be annoying when Dad tells me to stop doing something I do not even realize I'm doing or do not even mean to do, and instead of listening to me, she instead asks me if I want to go back to such and such in a frustrated tone, and when she expects me to forget about a situation at the snap of a finger, but when they aren't doing those annoying things to me, they can be pretty good parents. (Hey nobody's perfect, you know)

Before they knew about AS - i'd give them an 8.

Nowdays probably a 3.

My father: 4 (I worry about him thats what annoys me more then anything, plus he's also an aspie

My Mother:2 Since ive become more independant and moved out we get along far better then we ever have done. Mainly because we have a clash of personalities. Shes a perfectionist in her own way and im a perfectionist in my own way. Never gonna work together

Overall, my parents are pretty cool so I'd give them both a 2.

Dad = 23
Mom = 9.92349643

#10 for both [although varies for my mum].

Stereokid, I'm glad you posted this thread. My husband and I must sound exactly like your parents. We are always telling him to stop doing something, especially complaining. He has started several, annoying habits lately. He likes to talk in a screechy, high-pitched voice all of the time. He complains incessantly. Overall, I would prefer an AS kid anyday to an ADHD kid! No offense anyone but my ADHD kid is the very essence of annoying and will probably be the one to send me to the funny farm!

My parents are too strict for my tastes, for it's a 7.

They grew up in different times when children's privacy was a nonexistant concept, so they go through my things all the time, and even throw out stuff they consider junk. Unfortunately, one of them was a 5-year-old collection of movie stubs. I've taken to hiding nasty notes among my possessions, saying something like: "whoever finds this note is a piece of slime". That way, if they decide to pilfer my desk, they get a hint of what I think of their actions.

I just hope I won't take out the built-up anger on my kids.

At the moment 9 for both but i have a scary suspicion that that will go majorly down hill if they find out about my AS. My brother now knows and has been very allowing for it but i have a feeling my parents would end up either desperatly over protective or very dismissive of it but both would qualify them to be very annoying and i really don't want to break the relationship i have with them

For a while, things weren't too bad, then it all started to go down the drain, so I'd give them an 8.

Among my peeves about them were they practiced double standards and felt there was nothing wrong with doing that. In other words, not allowing me the same freedoms, choices, etc. that all my other siblings had. Having tons of rules for me and not alot of rules for them, being willing to punish me in a minute for some minor offense while letting the others get away with the same thing and worse. As others probably know, my biggest peeve with not just my parents but others is double standards. I don't see how people can practice double standards, know they are doing it, and either justify it or think there is nothing wrong with it. I guess my thinking is to mathematical to understand the mindset behind double standards.

They also are very conformist and image focused. If you aren't what they consider "normal," you have to at least appear as such, being a big fake. They used to love to go on about how I don't have any personality, and how I have to take abuse from those "in power" if I want anything out of life, a lesson that has caused me many problems. I could just never "look right" to them.

Not only was there "looking right," but thinking and feeling "right." They'd tell me "You're cold" or "you're hot" regardless of how I really felt. They'd also tell me "you like this" or "you don't like this" or "this is how you feel, you don't feel that way." How I survived it I'll never know, but I sometimes still feel strong waves of anxiety when I try to show how I really feel about something if it isn't the so called "norm." I describe the anxiety response as similar to a Pavlov Dog.

okay, on a general note. i don't know of any parent who is never annoying. Parents are annoying to children in some way or another.

Having said that, I would give my parents a 1 each. Usually, my parents annoy me, but it doesn't really have anything to do with my asperger's, it usually is something else. For the most part, my parents leave me alone (referring to the aspie within me). Although, my mom doesn't like it when I swing things around and she refers to it as a nervous habit. Other than that, my parents aren't really annoying.

*edited due to harassment.

My father 3
My mother 7

My dad has learned respect for my space and time where as my mom has not.

My dad is a 3, and my mom is a 4. Except every so often they REFUSE to let me alone and keep asking me questions when all I want to do is read. Then they are about a 7.

They're both about a 5. Sometimes they leave me alone and let me do my thing. Sometimes they're on my case and they presume that I don't know much of anything. That will all change, when I move into my own place. The applications are mailed and I'm going to be on the Wait List. I'll keep to myself and my Dog for the time being.