Ever feel like a failure?

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Considering my College issues and the fact that my behavior has upset EVERYONE in my environment! Sometimes I feel like I'm a failure. Other people NT's & Aspies some are succeeding have normal lives boyfriend or husband jobs etc. and yet I'm stagnant. I kind of at times feel "lost" not sure if that's the right word. I'm in the middle of paying off debt for the rest of the year (it'd go by alot quicker if A) I stopped spending money B) I got a job. I wish I hadn't screwed up so much in life maybe I would have friends now. but I'm friendless (outside of AIM) I'm referring to RL friends. and I go to the movies/shopping etc. mainly with family. I feel "stuck" does this sound familiar to anyone else here? Thanks. Sorry to whine again but this IS the Haven board.

Awwww......I feel like that all the time! I have had major college issues! I dropped out of university because of them at one time, and just recently returned with the intention of completing my Bachelors degree. I still have nearly have anxiety attacks every other class be because I think I may have offended a professor with a poorly worded question. I am 25 years old and do not drive, do not have a boyfriend (or husband) and have not finished my degree which I began at 18. I feel like a failure very often.


You are not a failure! First of all you finished your Psych degree.....which is awesome....that’s what I need to do. =) Also if you feel stagnant maybe you are just ready for a change, and maybe what that change should be will become more clear in time. Or maybe you just need to evaluate things (namely, your life/yourself) from a different perspective. I know I need to do that quite often.

I have also upset EVERYBODY in my environment........... Maybe this is a normal aspie thing....rather unfortunate one....=)

that feeling sounds familar to me.

Im about in the same scenario . . . immediate family seems pissed that I cannot get a f/t job that could get me into an apartment (but the economy sucks, and i refuse to take job hunting seriously for sake of keeping sane). I did good in a Community College, but only lasted 2 years towards a Bachelor's degree. Its only been recently that Ive realized i was trying to live up to the expectations of others for I had none of my own (which seems to be a common issue for most anyone). I'll admit that trying to find my place has been daunting for I dont know how to go about finding my niche in life (i did try making a journal, but that was short-lived, my skills are not specific enough and i lack field experience). If anything, its current society that's making things difficult . . . about all you can do is try to keep afloat until something useful turns up. As for your friends issue, well . . . that's daunting in and of itself.

Thanks for the replies I actually need to return to College to finish my AA degree THEN maybe start a Bachelor. Those sound like interesting ideas though thanks.

Sure, I feel like a failure a lot of the time. I never finished college (I left because of math), and I've had no luck getting a job. I hope things turn around soon, not just for me, but for everyone in this thread, or better yet, for everyone in this entire forum.

Oh yes, I feel like a failure. I am in my third year teaching at one school-so i would be up for tenure, but they just told me last week that they will not be renewing my contract. This at hte school my son attends (he has aspergers as well) where he has finally started to make friends. He can't go there if I don't teach there.....so it is a big blow for him as well. I feel like I failed myself and him!
I have made the principal aware of my disability and that i am seeking help for it. But that doesn't matter! And they told me this is not because of issues with my teaching. It is because I "don't fit in".....it's so rotten!

ps are you supposed to go all the way to the end to post on these things? I really don't know how this works.....I hope people will see what i wrote and talk to me....

Erika, I see your post. The most recent posts are always at the bottom.

Hi again OP.........I really think you should go back to school! I had a lot of issues with school as well... I am 2 years older than you and still working on my degree. However since I've been back (starting at 24), I have had more motivation and have done very well. I have read many of you posts and I think you are very intelligent. Also. I have the same special interest as you do...psychology...my family dreads the topic (lol). I think you should go back just for the intrinsic value of the education. You seem to have a passion for psychology, so you should learn more about it. (That is if you still have the special interest). I think it might make you feel more fulfilled. Good luck.

constantly. I always had trouble getting along with people in school. i had trouble passing classes sometimes. i had trouble in the work place and now i'm a 30 year old living in his dad's basement. i feel like chris elliot from that show "get a life" on fox back in the early 90's.

What exactly is keeping you from going back to school? Can't you take academic courses at a community college in the meantime? They usually get credited towards your education when you transfer to a 4-year-school.

Not being able to find gainful employment doesn't help! I'm letting my life slide by and the worst bit is I have no idea what to do with myself.