Facebook is flawed and I'm uncomfortable

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I use facebook to keep in the barest of contact with people I've known over the years (I prefer not to bother but I tell myself its good).

Yet, after replying to a friend's (actually, my ex's) wall post, I received a rather nasty comment from some random high school girl I'd never met (she seemed to be a friend of his daughter's). I never asked for this person to contact me, nor for her to be cruel, nor for her to indicate she knew things she never should have, things some very close companions don't know.

Why is this behavior acceptable, even among NTs?

why are you blaming facebook and not a person?

I could blame this stranger, but I'm also confused at the structure of a network that allows strangers (whether they be malicious or well-intentioned) to interfere with the interactions of other people.

I guess one could avoid this by sticking to private messages (as nearly all of my contact is) but the initial interaction was made publicly, and I find it odd that a strange high-school girl would be involving herself in what was between two much older people.

High school girls can be nasty. Remember, anything you say on the profile can be viewed by all of that person's friends. Better to private message the personal stuff. I like Facebook because I don't have to disappear from the lives of people when I enter a different life stage, yet I am not burdened with keeping a constant exchange going. I look better when viewed from a distance. Many find me quite awkward and ordinary up close and in person.

I don't see how this is facebooks fault that people are a***holes.

Like other internet places, people are always going to be nasty and the social networking sites do everything they can to allow you to block people you don't want contact with.

Replying to someones elses wall to wall is something that you lose control of as soon as you do it as only the person who owns the profile can delete other peoples comments.

You can still delete your own though.

Its a free for all when you do that, got to accept people are going to be twats if you post publicly.

I know its horrible, but people are immature a***holes with no life. Like that everywhere.

You can remove comments on your wall that you find objectionable, and make your profile private so only your friends can see it (and put public comments on it). Furthermore, you can keep all delicate personal conversation to private messages.

I never understood the point of sites like facebook and myspace, I joined facebook and people I barely knew in school added me as a friend, then if I am out in public and I see them they dont say hello anyway. Its just a popularity contest for nosy people.