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How many people feel they need, crave, or really really want personal affection in their lives?

Im an extremely unaffectionate person and always have been but with my ex bf I felt very affectionate and really loved kissing and touching and holding him.

Nope, not here.

from a partner, yes. from anyone else, no.

I can't stand for either one of my parents to touch me anymore.

Yes, but only from people I'm sufficiently comfortable with. My parents not so much but my boyfriend and close friends definately. I absolutely adore being hugged and having my hair stroked. Sometimes I think it would be nice if we actually were a pack of werewolves and could just curl up and sleep together without it having any implications.

not me

In limited quantities, with people I'm comfortable with!
~K

No.

Only in limited quantities from guys I am fond of.

Also affection from Animals will always be welcome.

It depends on the person, the situation and how overwhelmed I've gotten that day. If we're just talking about undemanding cuddling, then with a partner it's fine. If they want to talk at the same time, it won't last very long. I can talk or I can cuddle, not both at the same time. Hand-holding is usually fine, too. Hugs are okay if I know they're coming and know the person. I'm more shy about kissing -- I enjoy it a bit too much, so it had better be leading to something more.

On the other hand, if I've been inundated with people and stress all day, too much physical contact can frazzle my nerves just that much more.

I have bouts of craving affection but more often am in dont touch me mode. In my first relationship I was obsessed with her and quite clingy. In my second I was in it for logical reasons so only occassionally i needed a hug. My kids have different rules their my kids.

Only from my wife. I can't think of anyone else who would have any affection for me. But from my wife, it gives me something to look forward to. Without it, what reason would there be for our marriage to continue?

I can deal with and desire affection from the one person I am in a relationship with, but I find it difficult to deal with from other people. I feel desperately awkward hugging friends of mine of either gender.

I like affection from as many directions as I can comfortably keep track of and preferably repay. Which is not a great number.

I crave personal affection, but I have no one to share that sort of thing with. It is sort of an alien concept to me. When I was in my late teens I had a friend (were weren't really boyfriend and girlfriend) but he used to give me big hugs and I liked it. Although he thought I wasn't very responsive. That was over 10 years ago now and I've never had anything remotely similar. I can remember what hugs were like and I miss them. If I am attracted to a guy I want to hug him, but no one wants to hug me.