How do you cope with changes?

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How do you cope with changes?

It depends how I normally cope with it and sometimes even little changes (but not often) I get a meltdown over it....
Like when my date got postponed it was too much of a change for me that I had a meltdown over it and I cried and sulked and the pressure of planning felt ruined.

Lucky it happened two days later. yet I feel pretty embarrassed for having a meltdown about it.

I seem to survive changes well, but some changes will make me stressed out like if someone moves stuff around in the house..... It's annoying because then I can't find stuff

It varies from feeling a bit anxious to meltdown.

Badly.

I can actually cope with changes, quite well.

Change is my worst enemy.


... Which is great, seeing as I'm graduating high school, leaving home, and starting college this year Uh-oh...

I do fine with it. I don't have a cow. My husband thinks I have trouble but if I did I would be freaking out. It's only when he wants to do things at the spur of the moment that causes me stress. But he doesn't do that to me anymore so I am fine. He just asks me to do things for him and I do it eventually. I just need to give myself time to adjust.

Im learning to cope with changes as i've gotten older. I've found out that change is apart of life and we just have to adjust to it. But when I was younger doing to school I hated changes. Every first day of school my anxiety was high because I was going into new classes new classmates and I couldn't wait to get home to play video games.

With great difficulty

If I can arrange my life so that the same thing happens every week then I'm a happy fellow. Change my arrangements (including vacations) and I feel various things from uncomfortable to upset.

Vanilla_Slice

I cope very well with changes. I mean I cope, that is I don't sail through them, but I reason my way through them and it really makes no difference if it's a familiar situation or a new one. I still reason my way through it. If there's too much to think through, or if gets too dense, I reduce the number of things that I have to reason through as much as possible. If something is very unpredictable and out of my control I might get upset, or I might shut down and plow through. It depends. But generally I manage one way or another.

I have to take the good with the bad - some changes are devastating (I mean disproportionately so), but if there were none at all, life would be very dull.

I was kind of forced to be able to cope with change as a child, seeing how I moved around 14 times before graduating high school. It wasn't my choice, but since then I've moved on my own about every two to three years. Now I'm planning to move again, but hopefully this next one will be permanent. What's interesting is that both my mom and grandmother are the same way. They both move so much, that you can't even keep track of their phone numbers. Thank god mom has a cell phone now. They both show signs of AS too. I think my whole family is at the opposite side of the spectrum with change. We need change too often. We have flighty syndrome.

I don't like changes, but I deal with them very well. If someone were to ask me if I wanted to change something, I would say no, but if that change happened anyways my attitude is "Oh well, sulking won't bring it back." This attitude is awesome at times, but not so much at others. It means I don't stress out ANY about things like traffic jams ("oh well, just means more time to listen to my music"), but at the same time I don't do anything about situations that I could possibly change. For instance, if I get really slow service at a restaurant, I don't say anything and I still tip the same (unless they're actively rude or something). I take the "Oh well, I'm sure they're trying" attitude. I've previously let some people take advantage of me due to this. My junior year prom date went to a different afterparty than the rest of our group had planned and gave me a lie about where she was going (sick grandmother, lol). Instead of getting angry like I should have (and possibly like some reading this are), I said "Oh, okay, hope she feels well" and took the "Oh well, I'll have fun anyways" attitude. If I had a crush on her, it might have been harder to shrug it off, but luckily I had asked her because I was running out of time to get a date and she would make my pictures look good .

It can depend. If it's a last-minute change of plan, I go into a complete hissyfit, because then I panic as I've got to rethink everything that was prethought out, and I am RUBBISH at that.

If I pre-decided to buy something for my supper, and that item was not available, I can't think of alternatives (and yet this is so simple, but in the moment I struggle, sometimes I'm in near-tears)

If however, I had an appointment at the end of the week and that was cancelled at the beginning of the week, I would be okay with it, for me the timescale seems to be the determining factor to how I cope, more time=better.

I'm very adaptable. If something around me changes or somebody I know is leaving, I think:
"This is the way things are and there is nothing I can do about it, so I might as well get on with it".
I never have been one for routine anyway. I'm too much of a scatterbrain .

I must know about them in advance, detail by detail. I remember my brother wanting to to comeover and stay the weekend. The weekend would come and go and he couldn't figure out why I didn't want to stay the rest of the week. I had mentaly prepared myself to say for three days, not seven.

Anything drastic such as a move, a trip, someone staying over for the night must be known about at least the day before it actualy happens. The longer I have to mentaly prepare myself, the better. We moved from Ohio to Texas and I didn't have any problems once we actualy got there because I was allowed to prepare myself for months. Some people don't allow us anytime to mentaly prepare and expect us to just drop everything and go on "vacation" right then and there.