Affection question: holding hands, kissing.

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Does anyone else here when someone goes to hold your hand or something you just feel weird? Like it's a feel indescribable. You want to or sometimes you don't but it just feels weird, basically not right. Maybe sometimes it's not just holding hands, maybe it could be with kissing or something.

Yeah, physical contact makes me feel uncomfortable too. I want it, want to be able to do it comfortably, but I've never really had the opportunity, so it feels really foreign to me. In my case, I know that cause is 'lack of experience, due to social anxiety problems', so I'm confident that i can desensitize myself to this, with a little practice. I'm just getting past the anxiety problems ATM, so I'm workin on it, but it'll take awhile. Now i need to find myself a practice subject. (not aimed at the OP, or anyone in particular)

Speak for yourself. If it's someone I like, I enjoy the affectionate stuff. (more like crave it, but that's beside the point)...

I really hate kissing (so glad I'm not expected to do it anymore) and I think holding hands is a bit stupid. It's not accomplishing anything. I like cuddling and hugging but I never got why my ex always needed to have his free hand holding mine while driving. Why? Seemed so weird.

I think you're just not used to it. Give it more of a chance, I'll bet you'll warm up to it.

I actually like all that affectionate stuff, but have problems initiating it. I never know proper timing or when it would be acceptable, and tend to wait for them to make the first move, and it varies from girl to girl anyways. I had a date once that after they told me they felt unwanted because I didn't even put my arm around them while watching a movie together, let alone attempt to kiss them on the first date.

I could not be in a relationship where there was no hand-holding or kissing, or anything like that.

I have never had a chance to experience it yet but if she wants to be affectionate with me, I probably wouldn't be able to resist it. Having a relationship with no affection would be pointless even for someone like me who's aloof.

I generally find those things really uncomfortable but I wasn't when I started dating my boyfriend. Before we were really "officially" dating we went to a burlesque show and he put an arm around me. I flinched like normal but I was surprised how okay I was with it when he asked me if I minded. The problem with physical affection for me is not knowing how appropriate it is or what to do. When I can ask and understand the rules it's fine. I really like him holding me and kissing me, and cuddling and all that. It's nice. And it is possible, it's only weird at first.

Also, how would I desensitize myself for affection?