Autism and nosiness

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Anybody here on the spectrum find themselves to be nosier than the average person? I know I have that tendency, and just want to know if I'm not the only one and if this is part of being autistic.

every once in awhile i have volume problems

I meant nosy as in curious about things to the point that it is annoying. As in, why did so and so come to the door, or what was someone's motives behind something that isn't any of your business.

I'm not really personally.... not intentionally really. I don't want to know what is going on with others unless it's actually effecting me in some way.

I tend to look out my window more than others probably, but that is because every little noise I hear sounds like it's happening in my front yard.

I observe people and analyze, but I don't think that is the same thing.

I could potentially be very nosy most likely... or seen that way to some, but it's in attempt to understand why they do certain things.

But again, I don't really seek out the information-I only get that way if I'm told about something.

However, I can see where it would go the other direction, too, where someone would be super curious about other people and want to know why they are doing things all of the time.

i am not nosy i don't think. i am not interested in other people's business and don't gossip. i am not a curious person in general except when it comes to my special interest of course.

I find that I'm less nosy than most people. I'd rather just mind my own business.

My husband isn't diagnosed, but he is most likely AS and he has to know everything. I don't know if that's an AS thing, but it drives me crazy. I buy a different shampoo than I normally do because they don't have my brand and he has to know why I bought that one instead. It makes me feel like I have to explain everything I do, like I live with my parents. I'm on the computer and he comes in and has to know who I'm talking to and about what and on what page. It's not that he doesn't trust me because he can check any time, he just has to ask. Anything that changes or is out of the ordinary he has to know why. He doesn't do anything with it, it's just like he has this curiosity that he needs to satisfy.

I generally mind my own business these days, though I think it was something I had to learn. When I was younger, if I was curious, I'd just come right out and ask.

Strangely, my wife, who has some Aspie traits, often annoys me by questioning my every move. It's strange because I normally have no problem answering questions, and take it as a compliment when people are interested enough to want to know stuff about me, but she's managed to prove that even I have my limits. After a number of questions about why I do x this way and y that way, I begin to feel as if I'm being subtly but persistently criticised. Whether or not that's really the case remains to be discovered.

I can be intrusively nosy.

My guess is that it is more of an obsessive compulsive thing rather than an Aspie thing. At least in my experience, I tend to get nosy when I get anxious. I want to collect information in the hope that my worries will be eased.

Yeah sometimes its real hard for me to see where the line is drawn, and I often step over it. I need to know everything about everything, and then everything related to it, ect ~

Nope - I don't give a rat's @ss what other folks are getting up to, as long as it doesn't interfere with my business. In fact, I wouldn't waste time concerning myself with the activities of people I don't even want to know, much less know about. Nosiness leads to gossip and rummaging about in other people's things or spaces (which I consider highly unethical and even immoral). If you're not socializing and gossiping, why do you want to know about everything other people are doing?

I despise people who pry into my business, and I would never want to become one of them.


Curiosity about things, ideas and events is natural and healthy. Curiosity about what's in someone's purse is just pathological.

I'm a loud talker.