I’ve just got back from my ASD assessment where I was told categorically that “There is absolutely NO WAY you can have Asperger’s” because:
1. I do not have the one special interest that I obsess over.
2. I do not recall having any significant delay in learning to walk and talk.
Now forgive me if I’m wrong but since when do you need just one special interest to be classed as AS? I do get very obsessive over random things, although these are always temporary and pass within a few weeks to be replaced by something usually unconnected. I explained this to the doctor but he seemed to think it was unimportant, although according the UK’s National Autistic Society…
“People with Asperger syndrome may develop an intense, sometimes obsessive, interest in a hobby or collecting. Sometimes these interests are lifelong; in other cases, one interest is replaced by an unconnected interest.”
The second reason seemed even more bizarre, because it was always my understanding that the main difference between Asperger’s and High Functioning Autism is that with AS there isn’t supposed to be a delay with this part of a person’s development. Again from the NAS…
“The main difference between the two is thought to be in language development: people with Asperger syndrome, typically, will not have had delayed language development when younger.”
Although he acknowledged I had significant social difficulties, there were three things in particular he was looking for in order to give a diagnosis and I didn’t fulfill those other two. Now it seems obvious to me that the doctor doesn’t have a clue what he is talking about and his entire diagnostic criteria is based on inaccurate information. Living my life by routines, taking things literally and physical clumsiness were deemed unimportant. He didn’t even bother to ask about sensory issues.
He said that because I didn’t fulfill those other supposedly key criteria I couldn’t have AS, nor did he think I had anything else. His conclusion was that my problems were a result of my personality and nothing more. Now I know this isn’t the case but I’m at a loss regarding what to do next. I could accept being told I had no ASD, but not under these circumstances.
I could go back to my GP and ask to be referred somewhere else, although I’ve got no guarantee the next person will be any more knowledgeable. Also, I’m not sure I could put myself through another 3 months of emotional turmoil while I wait to be seen. Although I don’t want to quit now after such an unsatisfactory conclusion, I’m not sure I’ve got the resolve to carry on.
What I really need is some advice from people who’ve experienced similar and how they coped with it because I'm feeling pretty low right now.