Willard wrote:
The age you lose your virginity is of zero importance. Anybody can make up whatever story they want about that. The fact that it even concerns you marks you as a beginner.
What matters is whether you're a selfish undisciplined, immature partner who pops in under sixty seconds and can't please a woman, or considerate, experienced and in control enough to make sure the lady comes first. Literally. Less than forty full minutes is an abject failure. Don't forget your head and hands.
This is a large part of why I want to build a relationship that is based on factors
other than sex, so that it's strong enough to survive my complete lack of experience until such a time that I can gain said experience. Ideally the type of woman I'd want to be in a relationship with would be a more forgiving type anyway (I'm harsh enough on myself, I don't need a woman to add on to that)...
That said, I wouldn't put an arbitrary time limit on these matters either. If you've got two partners that are both fully satisfied in 5 minutes, why take the whole 40+? In any case, it depends on the relationship at hand. The point is don't be selfish and immature about it.