Do you prefer the woman to make a move?

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Aspie guys, do you prefer the woman to initiate the first kiss/makeout session and then sex?

I don't need her to make a first move. But what I do need is for her to be clear that said move is what she wants. I can't stand this subconscious BS...

I'd only say yes because I wouldn't be able to do it. I'm terrible at reading signals.

I can't vote on this. I don't think either one should be initiating just by default. The dynamic depends on the duo I should think. For me, as much as I like being approached (big confidence booster for me, and a good display of confidence for her, which I like), I don't have problems initiating things if it proves necessary. I don't want to lose out on something cool just because it doesn't happen automatically.

The first kiss? Makeout session? Sex? None of those are necessary. I only need her to intiate approaching me. And be obvious in her intent.

Now I have to admit I fall reverse to that. I don't mind approaching if it is obvious to me that she won't, but is interested, which has happened a few times. After that though, I don't like to lead things in a relationship much. It's a little harder to get me to do those things, although I'll admit I've done those too (except the sex part, as I am technically still a virgin). It just feels very awkward for me and makes it harder for me to get into it. =/

Yay for abusing parentheses!! =D

Of course. Less hassle for me. That said, I reserve the right to say no.

Of course, any guy says otherwise is complicated or idiot.

Lol, I just realized I hadn't read the first post, but just the poll. In which case, I guess my second post here applies more than my first. ^^;

I'm a girl, but I wanted to see the results...and they're surprising Thinking back, I didn't initiate the 'asking out' phase, but I initiated almost every kiss.

I need to be sure she isn't just pulling my leg...

Well I'm sure the opinions would be different here if say the girl that was to do the approaching wasn't hot.

Don't get me wrong, we live in a different age where genders aren't as conformed as they use to be thank the flying spaghetti monster. But I wonder if more men would have trouble with the notion of a woman coming on to him than the other way around.

Guess it depends though.

I am indifferent, but I usually make the first move.

Either way works for me.

Although them making the first move does provide me some insurance that I'm not just forcing the whole physical aspect of the relationship on them.

Not that a feeling of guilt can't cause the female to initiate regardless of whether she wants to, at times.

I'd like to have a discussion early on to help minimize awkward moments that could be misunderstood. I'd be least a little freaked out if she suddenly unzipped my pants & I wouldn't want want to suddenly hug/kiss her if she's not comfortable with affection but if she is; I probably would not stop kissing her or let my arms go of her. God I'm lonely Is there a world record of longest hug cuz I'd mite could break it if I had a partner

there should be a "I have no clue" option on the poll, and Ill explain why with my own view on it.

I really wouldn't even know what id pick simply because I think it would depend on the people in question. Some women will go up regardless while others will be the 'stereotypical' waiting for mr right to get the cajones to ask me himself type of women. So really, I think an adaptive approach is needed, one that would cater to either one or the other.