I hate when friends grow apart.

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I've had that happen all too many times. They move apart, find new interests, and just kind of avoid the subject of hanging out when you try to call them. Sux, man.

I also hate it, when that happens, as well. I'm still dealing with that.

yeah, it sucks indeed.

I asked a dear old friend a few months back why we stopped hanging around. He told me something I did 31 years ago. He had been carrying that thing around for 31 years. We worked it out and now we're spending time together again. He understands now that I just don't always see the other side and if I upset him he just needs to slap me in the face with it right away.

I have this issue with some friends. I remember that I tried in 6th grade to become friends with a neighbour, and we were for a time good friends. That was until 7th grade when he told me I was childish and that he hated me and called me a stalker. I went to his house when we were friends frequently(once every two weeks) for a time, and that's what he meant by being stalker.

I have another friend who I thought stopped being friends with me, but recently, out of the blue he wants to hang out. I used to go to school with him until our school got too crowded and some of us had to leave to the new high school after a year. I haven't talked to him since 10th grade, so I thought he moved on. I guess not.

Those that you are talking about were not really friends....probably were just friendly people

......or you were the only available person in the right phase and the right place to hang out with.....

I know. The whole time he was only pretending. He didn't want to be mean to me and tell me he didn't want to be my friend, but after a year, he got over that. I'm at fault for forcing myself upon him, but even afterwards he continued to resent me. I stopped caring, he didn't. He ridiculed me all tenth grade.

It hurts, doesn't it?

That's life, it happens to all of us.

I don't agree with that. That's unrealistic. People grow apart from each other, and find interest elsewhere. If they mistreated me, that's a whole different matter (and I have a thread for that somewhere) but I know some of these people were definitely friends of mine at one time. They couldn't have faked it that well for that long.

I can live with the friendships that you grow apart from. It is a normal part of human social development. People move on, move away, etc.

What I have a problem with are the friendships that abruptly end, without little or no warning. I have had this happen a few times in my life and it hurts alot. Just when you think that things are going along all right, bam they send you a nasty e-mail telling you to leave them alone, and then they don't respond to any correspondence. That is what really hurts.

My best (only) friend stopped wanting to do stuff together. We used to always watch movies together or make dinner once or twice a month then I noticed a shift, she stopped contacting me, and on the rare occasion we did hang out it seemed to be more out of duty. It still saddens me even though over a year has passed since we've really talked. No matter how hard I try I can't get over it even though I know for everyone people come and go.