I Cannot Feel Love

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It seems to me that love is something that I just can't experience. I get a girlfriend, but then I do not talk to her for ever and in 4 days she breaks up with me. I do not feel sadness. This has happened many times.

Do you think I'll be single forever? It would be fine by me if I was. All I need is my thoughts. However, I feel terrible about disappointing my parents and not living up to the 'American dream'.

I dunno, WP. What do you think? Bestow me your brilliant opinion.

You have no business dating people for whom you have no affection.

Sorry to be harsh.

The American Dream is fine without you. Have another dream

This is a recipe for making yourself and everyone around you unhappy. In a relationship your parimary goal ought to be mutual fulfillment of yourself and your partner(s). Your parents don't enter into it.

Last edited by ProfessorAspie on 24 May 2010, 11:19 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Maybe you haven't met the rite kind of person OP I used to not feel affection either till I found someone who I could relate to & who seemed to really care about me. I don't know anything about the girl-friends you've had or your situation; I'm just taking a random guess. I do not think you should be leading anyone on thou

It's quite possible that you're dating the wrong people.

Do you feel love at all? For animals, or family?

Go your own way. Is it worth pursuing something you don't really want?

I love animals, but I'm not going to date an animal.

I think what he meant is

If you can feel love

then maybe you just haven't met the right one.

Like hale_bopp said, do you feel love for anyone? Not necessarily attraction as in wanting to date them, just a feeling of attachment. Word it your own way if you like.

And maybe you just haven't met the right person. I've dated people and broken up/been broken up with and haven't had strong feelings about it. I dated someone for about two years and the day after we broke up I was fine. I was unexpectedly broken up with once and to be honest, I found it really hilarious (the way it happened, not that someone wanted to dump me, lol). I've had stronger feelings about people I haven't been in a relationship with. Have you had strong feelings otherwise, like a crush?

I really don't know if I had a crush or not. Maybe it was just physical attraction.

I know. I was just trying to establish if you were capable of loving at all. You don't love your family? Well in that case it might be more you can't love people and it doesn't matter who you date.

Don't give into pressure you don't have to date/start a family if you don't love people. I have a lot of love inside of me but I don't intend to start a family, ever.

I guess I do feel love, but it feels forced a lot. Maybe it's because I have never met a girl with AS who has similar traits as me.

I've never dated a guy diagnosed AS, but I once dated someone with traits very similar to mine. I never was in love with him, but I was very comfortable with him. Some people define love as how comfortable you are with the person. The people I've cared a lot about have their similarities and differences with me. I would say just carefully assess how you feel about the person before you get in a relationship, or you could even speak with a counselor or someone about this issues. If you're happy the way you are though, there's no problem.

Some people just don't experience romantic attraction. Maybe you're one of them. Don't date people you're not interested in, it's a waste of both of your time. Your parents don't have to date these women, so they don't get a say in what you do. Sure, they can pressure you, but it's not right of them, and you don't have to listen.

I'm sort of like this. It's very rare that I ever become attached to someone. Uproot me and take me 1000 miles from here, I'll be fine.