Habit I've noticed amongst Aspie/Autie guys

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The few autistic guys I've met so far at college all shared one bad habit: not introducing themselves. I'm fine if a guy comes up to me or walks with me back towards the dorms after a club or class (as were the cases). But it got kind of weird when we'd go from hi to them asking me where I'm from, how long I've been at school, what we were doing in class/club, etc. and than I have to ask "Who are you?" b/c I'm never given a name. If your going to start talking to someone you've never met at all or spoken to before, PLEASE introduce yourself (name) within the first 2-3 things out of your mouth after the greeting.

Good thing to keep in mind! I never introduce myself either. Aspie guys don't see things objectively. We never think about what others don't know. After I talk to someone a bit, I always assume he/she knows my name already.

It reminds me a little bit of another thread earlier, around these parts, along the lines of "where do I introduce myself to people?", presumably afraid that saying "I'm ____, by the way" would cut the flow of the conversation or something like that. I don't think I can claim a mastery of it either. I guess all I can advise people with similar worries is to introduce yourself out of the blue, hear the other person's name, and then immediately pick up from where you left off rather than making the manner of the introduction or the person's name a topic of conversation.

Guilty as charged. The longer a conversation goes on the more awkward it gets until you really can't introduce yourself because you'll look so foolish. For about a year I used to meet someone on a regular basis and it was six months before we introduced ourselves properly.

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This applies to me as well . . . When I talk to people, I'm focusing on the words and what I'm going to tell them, rather than information about myself. It doesn't come naturally, and since I'm already such an awkward in social situations, I don't care . . .

I never realised names matter to anyone. Duly noted. Now I'm going to spend all my time introducing myself when it's not appropriate.

I rarely introduce myself rightaway. I talk to the person and see if it is someone i want to introduce myself to... and no, i do not see it as "awkward", i see it as quality control.

Their is a woman that works in the cafeteria at my work. She says my name at least 3 times every time I get lunch. "Hi j0sh. What would you like j0sh. Have a nice day j0sh." It always struck me as a bid odd and excessive.

I've been buying lunch from her for like 6 months. I found out what her name was a week or two ago. I didn't want to ask because I felt bad about not knowing hers. I have serious problems remembering people's names.

Also. I'm fine with saying "hello [name here]" or "good morning [name here], but rapid fire name spamming in mid conversation just doesn't feel natural to me.

Sometimes I will talk about topics rather than introductions. Normally if I am talking to a person that I don't know, I feel they frankly don't care what my name is. I think it may be a gesture more than anything in certain cases.

I'm bad for this too , but i usually go in my head after... damn it i didn't mention my name or i didn't ask hers

I'm an autie female, but it just feels weird to me to have a full blown conversation for an extended period of time & technically not know who you are talking to .

I'm guilty of this. I probably don't give names enough importance. I never expect anyone to remember my name since I know sure as hell that I won't remember theirs. If someone introduces themselves to me first time we meet there's a 99% certainty that won't remember their name a few minutes later. Other than being a gesture of politeness, an introduction is fairly useless to me.

I can have a face permanently in memory after meeting someone just once, but the name rarely sticks. It's only after I feel like I've actually gotten to know a person that I easily remember their name. Before that there's a long period of awkwardness where I'm constantly stumbling on how to refer to the person.

I hate introductions. And people end up just asking me lots of questions and I just answer. I forget I have to ask ones back and then can't think of very many to ask.