Is anybody else a doormat for others?

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I feel like I am everyones doormat. They simply walk all over me and if I stand up for myself and say no,(such as with my family), they scream and yell at me and say that I am not doing right by them. I come from a home in which my parents are total a@#%$. (sorry even online I try to censor myself). I keep finding myself cleaning the house from top to bottom, putting up eveybodys clothes doing the dishes, cleaning up after the pets (I myself have none). And I still go to work. All they seem to do is lay around dirtying things back up so that when I get back everything is worse than when I left. And then they have enough gall to complain about how dirty the house is. I am just fed up with having to do the work that 3 other people should be included in.

that sucks!
i'm a slave to my mother. i live with her in an apartment and she has me do literally everything while she sits around on the computer or eats while watching tv. it's infuriating. she's come up with all kinds of manipulative things to say to me if i don't keep her happy. if she catches me reading a book, she'll bring it up when she wants to yell at me for forgetting to clean something. "you just sit around and read books. you never help. you don't treat me like a human being." it's ridiculous.

I usually am for people. Till I cuss them out and destroy their eardrums at the same time.

I used to be an emotional doormat but I worked on my self esteem issues and now if someone tries to guilt me in to something I just get annoyed. If someone starts giving out, I now can stand up for myself better.

For example when I forget something that my Mum asks me to do, she used to say a lot 'You never do anything', now I'll say what I did do (for example cooked dinner, cleaned the kitchen, swept/hovered the floors).

I've been a doormat to people, until last night. I went to the counter at McDonald's to order a hot fudge sundae. An old acquaintance of mine gave me 30 Cents change, and asked if I could get her one. I put my foot down, and said, "No!" She tried to make me believe that she would pay me back the money. I didn't fall for that, because I know what she's like.

Yeah, totally.

I'm too much of a people pleaser for my own good sometimes.

I try to be a good person. I'm always sure not to live for others any more than I expect them to live for me. I'm pleasant, but I still burp or eat too much occasionally.

When I was a guillible, hyper-nice child I was milked like a dairy cow for it.

I used to be a doormat, but not anymore. I'm now very cautious and see whether somebody is just using me.

My name is Ben, and I'm a doormat.

Gaaaaah - that feels better. Welcome to doormats anonymous.

Yes - I allow people to emotionally blackmail me, which only a few of them do. And I do seem to allow others to twist my arm into doing things I'd rather not do. I'm a mug like that really, but I hate the social akwardness of trying to say 'no' to people, as life is full enough of such awkwardness as it is...

To the OP.

Think of it this way.

If you pulled the same stunt with your friend he would never talk to you again.

That is our problem. We allow people to treat us poorly. Other people don't tolerate it.

I used to let myself be a doormat. I still do, with the people I've chosen to keep in my life, but I chose them because they get me better, and don't try to use me. Getting kinda lonely anymore, left me with very few friends. -_-