Embarrasing mistake...

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I go to high school and the other day I was sitting in class.

The class were doing some assignments that the teacher had given us. One girl in class, who was kind of cute, asked me, if she was doing an assignment, which involved numbers, the right way.
Trying to make a contact, I asked her "So you can't count or what?". My friends, who were sitting nearby, immediately started laughing and the girl just responded with looking down without saying anything.
It was not before the next day that I realized that I might have insulted her.

Just felt like needing to get this of my chest...

Anybody else ever does something like this?

If I'm understanding correctly, you were trying to make a joke, correct?

If I'm understanding right, than I definitely know the feeling. It's almost like a double standard. When people make a joke about me, or involving me, that hurts me or bothers me, I'm told that I need to have a sense of humor about myself, that I shouldn't take things so seriously.

But when I try to be humorous or crackwise, suddenly I'm the bad guy, and I'm tactless and thoughtless and I hurt other people.

It's gotten to where I've just quit trying to be funny, because it'll inevitably go wrong, and another person will wind up thinking I'm a jerk. I abhor the thought of being disliked, because I'm so desperate to be liked, so instead, I opt to just not do anything that could possibly provoke any dislike. I'm just plain neutral.

Been there, still am...

If you care about her view of you then you should appologise, otherwise think nothing of it but try to be mindfull of it in following conversations.

Sadly, I have no solution, only that it will happen less frequently if you "say" it in your head before speaking and if you keep sarcastic jokes to a minimum around people who aren't familiar with you.

OP, fix it. The next time you see the girl, ask to speak to her privately, as in, "Hey, can I talk to you for a minute?" Then explain that you were trying to make a joke as a way of starting a friendship, and you realize that it came out all wrong, and you wound up embarrassing her. Tell her you're sorry for embarrassing her, that you think she's a nice girl, you hope you can start over, and she should feel free to ask you for help in the future. Problem solved.

I have made jokes before and people get hurt by them. I have hurt my husband about four times with my humor and I offended someone here once with my joke and I tried apologizing but it didn't work. My mom did tell me my jokes are sometimes hurtful and she knows I try to be funny.

I don't know if my other humor here has been taken offensively. I'm not going to know unless I am told it was offensive or it hurt or if they made a big deal about it by saying I was rude or whatever. So all I can do is explain myself and if the other person doesn't want to listen, their problem.

I have problems like this myself. I try to avoid making jokes until wer friends for a bit. Some of my friends make jokes about me a lot & they don't mind when I make jokes about em cuz I can be funny & creative but other people who don't know me well can assume I'm being rude/offensive. I have a very offensive & raunchy sense of humor but I can find most things funny depending on situation