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27 Jun 2010, 6:12 pm

We as Aspies tend to say the wrong thing so I just thought I'd ask on here about what I said. My friend put on FB "worst day ever ever ever!! !" I commented why etc. and then texted her she said it's personal nothing serious. I replied "If you need to talk I'm here for you call my cell or FB me email etc. She said good to know thank girl. (Was the whole "I'm here for support if you need it) an ok thing to say to my friend? If she's having friend/boyfriend issues if she needs to I want to help in anyway I can. Is that wrong of me? I'm not going to put anyone down just Hey what happen etc. want to talk etc. :-) So I think I did ok. Not sure.

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27 Jun 2010, 6:30 pm

You've done well. Anything more would probably be blowing it out of proportions. You've sent the right message to her but whether or not she confides her problem to you is her choice. It could have been as well that her post on fb was aimed at some particular person or group.

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27 Jun 2010, 6:54 pm

zeldapsychology wrote:

So I think I did ok. Not sure.

Seems completely ok and 'normal' to me. Don't people perceive that as an essential part of friendship?

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27 Jun 2010, 6:59 pm

It was probably a bad idea to basically confront her about why things are going badly in a public place like Facebook.

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27 Jun 2010, 7:09 pm

Praetorius wrote:

It was probably a bad idea to basically confront her about why things are going badly in a public place like Facebook.

No. On FB I said why was it too hot (or something to that affect) On texting I asked What happen then she said not big just personal then I mention the want to talk let me know text comment. :-)

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27 Jun 2010, 7:43 pm

zeldapsychology wrote:

So I think I did ok. Not sure.

I think you did right and although she might not ask you for help on that she knows you're prepared to help and that's a good thing imo.

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27 Jun 2010, 7:53 pm

You did very well!!

My nieces, NT & same age as you, do that sort of thing all the time.

Your reaction was human. :wink:

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28 Jun 2010, 1:38 am

Ya did good, kiddo :wink:

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28 Jun 2010, 1:48 am

Ya you did the right thing. I tell that all the time to my girlfriend right now...mainly because I love her but I've told her no matter what I'll always be there for her, and even if she doesn't want to talk to me about her problems that's fine too.

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28 Jun 2010, 2:48 am

I think that you did the right thing.

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28 Jun 2010, 5:43 am

Looks OK to me. Doesn't look like you made too much of it (which might make the other person feel invaded) but you said enough to make it clear that you're there for her if she needs you. It's not always easy to strike the right balance but you seem tp have done it fine here.

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28 Jun 2010, 8:22 am

Praetorius wrote:

It was probably a bad idea to basically confront her about why things are going badly in a public place like Facebook.

If it's private she shouldn't have posted it. You're almost guaranteed to get reactions.

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28 Jun 2010, 9:15 am

That's a very good thing to do

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28 Jun 2010, 5:17 pm

I would do the same, Zelda

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29 Jun 2010, 9:24 am

I messed up!! !! I pushed further so why worst day ever ever ever (on FB chat) and she said don't want to sound mean but somethings I want to keep to myself she says it was an argument that got blown out of proportion but things are fine now. Then I spent 2 to 3 comments later saying sorry I asked etc. she kept saying no you're fine etc. :-( So I fealt bad I went further and asked. :-(

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29 Jun 2010, 9:29 am

zeldapsychology wrote:

So I fealt bad I went further and asked. :-(

You still didn't do anything wrong. You were curtious in offering help, she happened not to need it in this situation, you apologised. No harm done.

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