Being alone

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This is for NTs as well. If there wasn't an expectation in society that you should spend lots of time with other people, would we really be that bothered about being by ourselves? I've just gone from a week of almost always being with people to another where I am alone for 99% of the time and I can't quite analyse the pros and cons.

I believe so. I tried being a hermit and it made me go funny. I need a small but steady amount of socialization.

Yes, I couldn't give less of a damn about society's other expectations. Why the hell would I give a damn that they think I should have friends?

I love people and I enjoy them but no too much or I get over-peopled and stressed out.

Little and not too often is excellent.

Have to have time completely alone at home quite a bit though.

Only cope with working full time if I can be left alone for most of the day to concentrate with short interjections and pleasantries.

I like a really good intense lunch hour with a friend but can't get it together afterwards, so not too much socialising over lunch either.

Society can affect you in many ways without you realising it.

You have no idea how little society affects me. I have been a voluntary slave to my own judgement and philosophies for 4 years now. I can be the only one in a room not smoking or drinking and I don't feel pressured. I can go out in public with a hideous beard and uncombed hair and not care. Nothing gets to me.

Well, that is very impressive.

I stop and have conversations with my neighbors and with the people who work at the business I frequent. I'm socialable.

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I'm reluctant to make any close friends because I cannot handle the constant demands and expectations some people (usually NT's) make/have/want in a friendship.

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I need lots of time alone especially when I write, I'm in a totally different world experiencing a spectrum of emotions. It seems I need to be where my characters are, experiencing what they are. I do NOT like to be interrupted.

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I don't care what society expects of me. For years, my mother and evil little grandmother have tried to get me to go out, meet a MAN and get married again.

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Who knows, someday I might meet someone, fall in love and get married again. But I have NO desire to purposely go out searching for a man to marry like they want me too.

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Taupey

There are times when I wish to be alone and times when I wish to be out socializing. I wouldn't prefer either one to be permanent.

I like to have a good balance between being alone, and being with people. I don't really prefer one, over the other. On the nights that the driver, of my social circle feels like staying home, I choose to stay home and be alone, as well. That way, I can catch up on WrongPlanet and chores.

I do have a need for solitude, even from my own family (wife and children)

I am unconcerned with the social expectations of 'society'.

I am concerned that my wife and children deserve more quality time with me and have been spending more time with them of recent.

At the moment I have no interest in socializing but there are times when I can and do enjoy socializing (in small doses).

I don't have close friends, (for much the same reasons already shared by others in this thread), as the effort required (by me) doesn't usually justify the reward.

I do quite well with passing strangers, planes and trains.....

Last edited by Blindspot149 on 11 Jul 2010, 8:18 am, edited 1 time in total.

No, we seriously wouldn't. We are all brought up in society to live by society's rules, so they're hardwired in our heads now, meaning it's not a case of if you consciously care about what other people think, but instead a case of the impact environment has on shaping people, which is quite a bit.

If we grew up in a society where it was normal to not socialise all the time like NTs are so fond of doing, we wouldn't care about being alone for extended periods of time at all.

This is definately the main point of my topic. That's what I meant about social influence and I wonder how much social company is actually required for the human mind. But I have enjoyed all the posts.

Good point rmgh.

I have quite a good track record of ignoring 'Society's' rules and expectations.

As well as not socializing and showing NO interest in people that don't interest me (I DO meet some people who interest me), I have a very weak filter when it comes to expressing myself verbally.............and I am a fairly accomplished Aspie 'blurter'.

Come to think about it, the only 'social'expectations that I seem to meet are in relation to my Asperger traits, which I have no difficulty in following

This is difficult for me to say, because I've never been left alone for more than an afternoon. I do enjoy the peace and quiet that comes with being left alone, and it brings me joy to indulge in my hobbies without being interrupted. More often than not, social interaction agitates me more than it makes me happy. For these reasons, I am considering becoming a recluse after my parents pass away.

I love being alone and could easily be a hermit. I have a preference for silence and calm and no real desire for socialization.