Aspies, are you use to being "lonely"?

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For some reason I want to be alone from my family, but not my peers. I'm even getting mixed feelings about being alone. I use to staying inside my home toying with my special interest, but I wish I can go out and hang out with people. Problems that I have with the social world include not having the same interest, uncomfortable environment, and making mistakes in a conversation. These two decisions just make me go Life is confusing.

I want to have a lot of good friends, but I don't want to put myself out there because it's uncomfortable and I make too many mistakes and fail often. I'm conflicted as well. Most Aspies seem to like being alone rather than with others. I like that, sometimes, but ultimately I'd love to be with others and be socially up-to-speed with everyone else. But since I don't have that talent, it doesn't work out to well.

Loneliness drove me crazy with depression a while back. I'm working on accepting it currently, and trying to think of it instead as "solitude".

Last edited by Dnuos on 07 Aug 2010, 8:18 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Look for people who have special interests similar to your own and hang out with them. That's what I always did, and loneliness was not a problem.

Of course I like being alone and get sick of 'hanging out' after a while. Unless there's booze and chronic - then I'll stay all day, Snootch.

Last edited by Willard on 07 Aug 2010, 5:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I prefer to be alone. So yeah, I'm used to it the way a fish is used to water.

if i didn't learn to come to terms with solitude, i would have become a babbling wanderer taking a long walk off of a short pier.

Loneliness makes me depressed. Therefore I am depressed.

I like to balance lots of alone time with just enough socialisation and that seems to help stave off loneliness.

Come to be by myself most of the time and that how I like it most of the time but I need contact with other people from time to time else I just get lost in my own mind and it always end up stuck on a depressive idea after a while.

So mostly need contact with other people on occasion else I become dysfunctional, just wish I could simply live in my head without worrying about the real life. Always wish to never wake up when I go to sleep, not because I want to die, but because would prefer to be stuck in my dream, for in them mind is no longer caring about reality.

I'm used to being lonely as I was an only child and spent most of my time by myself. Sometimes I wish I had friends but most of the time I'm okay with solitude.

yeah, i know what you mean =P.

I get depressed and lonely but I still like being alone more because people are mean to me. I wish I lived alone in my own universe parallel to this one and be like some kind of ghost that no one would know existed, but I could still technically exist at the same time.

I get depressed when I am alone for long periods of time, but, at the same time, need breaks when I suddenly have social flare ups that occur occasionally, and I feel the most depressed after attempting to be social.

I enjoy my solitude, on the evenings, that I stay at home. I feel very relaxed, when I'm by myself, and especially on a dark and rainy evening, sush as tonight.

I learned to be alone and be happy with it when I was in 6th grade.

This about sums up my experiences, too. I'd like to, but I just don't really click with most people, at least not on a level where I'd really want to spend much time with them.

Nope. I like to surround myself with friends. It does piss me off however when they aren't there for me.