My brother....

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I think my brother actually likes to get me angry and then say he hates it to get my mom and dad to feel bad for him and to get me in trouble. For instance my brother has this ridiculous notion that all guys like blonde or brown hair, blue eyes, and skinny when it comes to girls. I remember when I came home after school and told my mom that my crush had told me he liked another girl who is blonde blue eyed and skinny. My brother asked what she looked like so I told him that. He said "Sam, Sam, Sam, when will you get it through your thick skull that's what guys like." He even told me that I needed to dye my hair and weigh 120 pounds if I wanted a "real"boyfriend. He throws crap like this up in my face like:

"It's hard to believe that I'm a 6th grader and you're in high school and I have more friends on facebook, a girlfriend and not to mention I'm more mature than you and not only am I smarter because I don't play neopets and don't mess up when I talk."
He's only 12! I'm just so frustrated because he corrects me all the time and I feel like sometimes he likes it and then he gets me to my boiling point so to speak and I yell or get angry and he goes "Jeez what did I do?!" and goes whining to my mom!

P.S. None of this has happened latley I just need advice from another teenage brother or sister who knows how to prevent this from happening.

I hope that things improve, between you and your brother, soon.

My brother is like that. Guess what - I'm 59yo and he's 61yo. He was like that when we were children and he's like that now.

Does yours break all your presents? Mine did and when I protested he said, "Always making trouble" - meaning me!

Anyway, Mom taught me what to do: ignore him. That takes some serious training, because he knows how to push all your buttons. Do not react.

That won't stop him, but he'll do it less.

I bet there's a psychological name for that kind of behaviour these days - maybe passive aggression? If you can find it in google or elsewhere, then maybe you can find really good advice on what to do about it.

btw,, he's "scapegoating" you. That's a psychological term these days. You can't change him. The only one you can change is yourself, and that can be successful.

Truth-telling time: I wish I had broken his stuff. I wish I had slashed his tires. I wish I had ironed holes in his shirts. I wish I had hidden his glasses. Would I have won that way? No, he would have won, he it wrapped up. And ignoring him did make my life more peaceful.

I'd just tell him that you don't give a crap what he thinks.

Well, my brothers and I went through that phase once ages ago (we're ages 29, 27, 25 now). If he's only 12, I'd try to find some common ground to work out your frustrations (and trash talk each other at the same time ). For example, my brothers and I found games to be a huge milestone in playing together (card, PC, console, board, etc). If that doesn't work, you could always do some reading and brush up on verbal ripostes. For example, if he brings up "real boyfriend" issue again, say, "Oh sure, like I'd take advice from a child on dating," or, "Why should I listen to someone who hasn't even gone through puberty?" Your brother is probably jealous about something involving you . . . what that may be, who knows? The first step is common ground, then the rest will be pretty smooth sailing . . . hopefully .

This makes me glad to be an only child.

I know for a fact that not all guys go for that stereotypical image. I, especial,ly go against the herd.

Mmm hola bueno tu hermano es un poko o bastante inmaduro el no se debe meter en tu vida y tu ni en la de ella si el quiere jugar pues que juegue y quiere volar pues que vuele que haga lo que le guste no kiere decir que es muy inmaduro, y deberia respetarte yo tengo un hermanito yo tengo asperger y mi hermanito muy brincon pero yo igual lo amo mucho y para que haya amor una de los dos hermanos debe comensar a tenerlo y ese es el mayor bye

My brother and I used to fist fight, argue, etc. It lasted for years but somehow it settled and now we rarley argue. I guess its a battle for dominance and with sibilings you just have to outlast.

My sister is another story...