Help with a problem.

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I dont know if any one else has had this problem but we are looking for advise.
Our son is 6 and diagnosed with AS. We homeschool, and he is generally a good and happy kid. but....
He has a problem with going to the bathroom (#2) He holds it for days and he wont go unless he is almost to the point of messing himself ( wich he does about 2 or 3 times a month) He is very ( I mean VERY) verbal and he says that he doesn't want to stop playing. He tends to go in his closet and try to hold it.
We have tried to bribe him to use the toilet. ( a special snack for a job well done). This helped, but he still holds it longer than he should.
We have tried ignoring it. That did nothing to improve the situation.
Has anyone delt with this? Any advise would be appreciated.

I think I would figure out what his "schedule" is as far as when he usually has to go and I would basically do what I did with the dog.

Rather than waiting until it looked like she had to go when we were housebreaking her, we just took her out on a regular schedule.

Make your son take regular bathroom breaks, during which he certainly doesn't have to try to go if you think he really doesn't, but during which he's not allowed to play. So he doesn't get to play during that time either way. That will remove the not wanting to go because he has to stop playing component.

Also, buy some flushable wet wipes he can use so when he does go, it's not a long ordeal for him.

A schedule is a great idea. Social stories are very helpful as well. You want to build some kind of routine and at first make it super exciting.

We had this problem for a while with our 5 yr old son. It was a viscious cycle, because the more he held it, the harder it was to come out. I just stayed on top of it, and would give him lots of fruit to keep things moving. I would just keep explaining to him that no one really likes to go #2, but it is just a part of life, and that we all just have to do it, because it is going to come out no matter what. Every day when I noticed that he seemed like he was trying to hold it, I would say "Okay, time for a potty break" and then take him to the bathroom. Once he got on a regular schedule of going every day, or every other day, then it just became a little easier. Also, just try to keep yourself calm and unemotional when you are talking to him about it. Good luck with this. I know it can be a challenge.

My son (8 yrs, AS) takes toys into the bathroom with him. It takes him forever in there, and I don't particularly like that he's in there "playing", but for your son it might be a solution.
Allow him to keep the door open , so he's still a part of the household. And let him take some toys with him - or books if he likes it. Maybe a little basket that contains "toilet time toys". Toys he can only access when he's on the toilet.
(Open door thing helpful here..)

It might work.

PS- I sympathize, our current "toilet problem" is that my son has taken to deciding he has to go #2 at 1 o'clock in the morning. Without fail. We're screwed when school starts..