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SpottedTiger
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27 Aug 2010, 6:31 pm

My ex boyfriend/friend hates me.

Yeah I know that looks petty and ridiculus, but it's true. See I broke up with him because I knew my lack of visible sympathy, my dislike of touching, my avoidance of eye contact, was hurting him. I could feel it, see it in his eyes as I looked away. So I broke up with him, killing the relationship to save him the pain.

(Honestly, I like him better as a friend anyway.)

We've remained pretty good friends since. But now I catch him glaring at me, he knows that bothers me. He purposely scared me just so I'd leave him alone. He snaps at me. And he's the sweetest person I know, but he hates me because of my Aspergian (is that the word for it?) traits.

Out of pride, I swore I'd never tell him. I grew up in Columbus; as humble as I try to act, Im pretty arrogant deep down inside (not saying all Columbusians are, but I sure as hell am).

But now I'm starting to think, should I tell him or not? I want to save our friendship, and I think he would understand better if he knew I had a problem. My other friends did, and he really is the most compassionate guy I know.

What do I do? Shall I swallow my pride and tell him, or just let it go?



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27 Aug 2010, 7:23 pm

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27 Aug 2010, 7:33 pm

I wouldn't even know how to put it.

"Hey dude, I've got this medical condition called Asperger's that makes me socially challenged."


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27 Aug 2010, 7:55 pm

you speak from your heart - you speak about how you feel
after that the ball is in his park


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27 Aug 2010, 9:12 pm

Well he is suprised I can tell. I think he is also rather concerned, but I can't tell. I can't feel emotion through a text message.

That went better than expected I think. As long as he doesn't start feeling sorry for me. I hate pity (when directed towards me).


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29 Aug 2010, 11:22 am

I think you should tell him. If he really loves you, then he would try to understand your situation. :D


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29 Aug 2010, 1:42 pm

There are a myriad of ways to tell your friend your symptoms and suggest how to deal with them WITHOUT exposing yourself to labeling. I think that would be better, so he can't just put you in a box |(along with possibly the rest of your peers if they find out)