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Hi. I'm new. I just found out I probably have Aspergers. I'm going to try to find out for sure soon if I can. I'm 44, are there any other middle aged people here? I'm really shy to talk about all this because I've been treated like a freak by a lot of people as long as I can remember. It is very hard for me to trust people for this reason and it has been rather lonely even though I have a husband, a daughter, and grandkids. My daughter thinks she has it too. I have felt so bad for my daughter because she has often been a social misfit like me, and I was afraid she learned it from me. When we read about Aspergers and realized it sounded exactly like us, we had a good laugh together or else we would have cried. By this I mean all this time we thought we were as dumb as people told us we were, and now we find out maybe it isn't our fault we are like this. Life has been good in many ways but in some ways it has been a nightmare because of people who think they have a right to mistreat people who are different. I don't understand what people get from treating others like that. Does any of this make sense?

Welcome.

Thank you.

Hi lae and welcome from another relative newbie. I hope you will enjoy wrongplanet.

Like you I was in midlife when I read about Asperger's and realized the description fit me. It explained a lot of things, especially unresolved stuff from childhood. I think I was about 50 when I found out about AS. You're certainly not the only middle-aged person here, although I think the majority of the posters here are much younger than we are.

You and your daughter might be interested in taking some of the on-line tests; my aspie results on those sort of clinched my self-diagnosis. There are links to them all over this board.

Thank you very much and I will try more tests. I tried one and it said I likely have aspergers. It's so nice to be able to talk with people who I don't have to be on guard with. I hate having to pretend I'm not eccentric or whatever. Eccentric always wins. My daughter tried a test too,same results. she is very impressed with this site by the way. It is making her feel more comfortable with our differences.

I didn't know I had tourettes sydrome and learning disabilities 'till I was in college. I hated feeling like a freak. I'm 45 years old now...married,two kids and a really good life. I feel very blessed.

I'm 31. I doubt if I could call that mid-life, since it all depends on the day I would die. If 31 is mid-life, then I'd die at 60.

I can relate to your feelings. I've been seen as eccentric, but I take it as a step forward. I think everyone needs to be eccentric to put up with the horrors of the dark world outside. It's only in our mind's eye where the light can truly be seen.

Welcome to these forums ...

- Ray M -

I want to thank you all for the kind words and all. I'm not good at this. But I want to say I'm not used to acceptance, and there's no way to express what a wonderful surprise you all are to me. I have mostly been the lone oddball, and suddenly here are all these kind, smart, witty people. And yet they understand what I'm talking about??? Again, thank you.

Welcome to the site.

We stand with you. Welcome to WP.

Welcome

However, I've had AS all my life. Welcome to the site, and get some professional help. I went through most of my life without it. It didn't hold me back that much, but until I saw someone about it, I was pretty miserable! I'm not saying that what's working for me is going to work for everyone, but we're here, and most of us have been through the mill.

What gives people the right to think they can treat others like that?
Absoultley nothing.
Why do they do it?
Because they're immature ignorant little people who have no tolerance, let alone respect, for anyhting remotely different to themselves.

hi there im new aswell

lae, I can relate to you. I have been doing a lot of research into autism and AS, after years of wondering why I am different, and after reading all about it (and being pretty sure I have it) I feel relieved.....at the same time I feel confused. I'm not middle aged by the way, just in my late teens and more sophisticated than everyone I know when I'm talking through a keyboard. I have never been diagnosed.

People have been mean to me my whole life, until they needed help on their homework. I was always the homework guy. Until around grade 10, when I put a stop to it. People were still mean to me from then on.

But anyways, I'm rambling (I have a tendency to do that), just thought I would say welcome (although you've probably been around longer than I have now).

Welcome lae, to the Wrong Planet. I am 43 Myself diagnosed about two years ago Myself.