IF I have AS, will my Kid have it?

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Say the mother is NT

More likely than if you were NT. It's genetic. I'd be more worried about having NT children honestly, who wants children you can't relate to?

Huh?

If you have it, there is a higher chance your kid will have it too.

Both my kids are aspergers and my father was too. My wife and mother are both NT. Contrasting that, my brother is definitely NT.

From my point of view - its much better having kids with aspergers. I couldn't handle having NT kids, all the one's I know drive me nuts.

Depends on which you feel is a more stronger influence on your childs outcome. Nature or nurture. Whether you are inately asperger or you will inherit the traits of asperger behaviour from observing your parents behaviour.

I'd rather have aspie children, because I would be able to relate to them.

I wonder this myself (from the opposite perspective of assuming the father is NT). But I worry that it's a double-edged sword: if the kid had autistic traits, I would feel guilty. If it was an NT, I wouldn't be able to relate to it, and who wants a child they can't relate to?

I curious as to why the both of you think these statements true? AS is such a widely defined spectrum that it seems improbable that parent and child would find themselves in the same place in the spectrum. I can tell you that I don't relate at all to my AS parent and that she does not relate to me and never related to her AS parent (while he was alive).

The real answer to the OP is that nobody really knows. There appears to be both genetic and non-genetic factors. The line between AS and NT is often a blur - look at how many self-diagnosed individuals are on here. Technically self-diagnosed is clinically NT so even with an NT spouse, no one really knows what clinical category the offspring would fall into.

There's still the same three core issues with autism. It doesn't matter if they present differently. I'd be able to understand it.

Actually I heard having NT kids is cheaper than having aspie kids. So maybe I should hope for an NT child.

If you knew that there was a massive chance that your kid will be an Aspie before they are born, my advice would be to not have one at all. The lack of knowledge will make the kid have a bad life, the services are prehistoric and do more to serve NT bank accounts rather then the Aspie themselves and the complete lack of understanding will get the kid melting down like you never seen before.

I'm a prime example of a bad system and yes, you've assumed right, I don't have kids. Why the hell would I want kids!

I have autism and my dad also had autism. But that means nothing. Anything can happen.

How is it cheaper?

No, rather, there's no such thing as clinically NT. NT means neurotypical, not non-autistic.

Additionally, not being diagnosed doesn't mean you don't have something.

I liked the rest of what you wrote.

i have AS, husband is NT, child is NT (with an auditory processing disorder / dyslexia). that doesn't mean much scientifically, but it's a case to consider.

i sometimes feel left out because the two of them connect in a way that i can't. but then i wonder if i somehow exclude *myself*. i don't always understand where they are coming from.

No craig you are responsible for your own actions as an adult. I am the same age as you and was diagnosed at the age of 10. I have struggled with the condition and the label in education, employment and relationships but managed to succeed in all those areas and achieve outcomes without resorting to blaming others for frustrations or barriers in the way to achieving my goals.

The fundamental truth is you have only yourself to blame and trying to be this victim of the system or society is completly pointless and an exercise in futility. No one is going to mend your life for you, thats your job, you can get assistance along the way but not automated servants who can miraculously solve all your problems.

I had nothing but a single parent mother back in 1992 and a school that wanted me sent to special needs education. In a few months time were going to even have an act of parliment make it a statutory duty of local authorities to provide services. That was unthinkable back then.

When you have an aspie child, they would need therapy to improve their social skills and sensory issues and help with their balance if you want them to have a independent life as an adult and an easier life.

I ate away my parents money as a child. I got counseling and occupational therapy and I was on medication for my ADD and then it was for anxiety and depression and I improved while on it.

Of course I know NT kids can be on medication too for things like asthma or for a heart condition they have and other health problems they were born with or developed later in life. But I meant NT kids without health problems and kids who have mental conditions are not NT.