Getting angry cos your mum interrupts you while you're....

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..using the computer with your earphones on.


Is there anyway to avoid exploding on her? I can't help it. I have a hot temper and I don't like to get things distorted. Imagine getting interrupted while you're flying a plane? I hate it!

Why can't she, like put post-it's and inform me that way?

But you're not flying a plane. If you distract the pilot of a plane at the wrong point people might die. Using the computer is hardly the same thing.

I get what the OP means. If I'm listening to music and I'm really lost in it, I hate people interrupting me. Ruins the whole experience.

I'm afraid I can't give you much in the way of advice, though.

My 15 year old daughter and I go round and round all the time about that very same thing. I dislike being interrupted possibly more than she does. The thing is sometimes I have to communicate something to her, but she does not give an opportunity for me to butt in without interrupting her. She literally always has her headphones on. I have tried to set up specific times for us to talk- right home from shcool, right before bed, at dinner. But outside of that I still sometimes have to talk to her. She has a billion activities and I have a really hard time keeping up with her. Shes popular, in 3 different bands, and sports. I'm proud of that. I have a whole seperate schedule just with her events.

Almost all of the time the thing I need to talk to her about is for her. So I find it particularly disrespectful of her to act like an ass when I do have to ask her something, like when she puts the headphones back in before I am done saying what I have to say. How passive aggressive is that? I can be very verbose but really try to keep it to under 30 seconds. She has no concept of what its like for me to keep her events in order, drop off/pick up times, whose house shes gonna be at. As a single father its alot.

I don't think its an as/nt thing so much as a teen/parent thing. Shes the normal one and I have the aspie traits. But my priority isn't to make sure she finishes her favorite song but to keep this house running to the best of my ability. For her. Because of her. On some things she realizes the best way to get what she wants is in fascilitating me on providing it. But she still fights me on so much its not funny. I think maybe if you went a little out of your way to let your parent know that they are appreciated and ask what you can do to help communication you may very well come to a favorable compromise.

I'm sorry, but this isn't a problem with your mother. I think you need to just get over it. The ability to adjust to what is around you is an amazing survival skill.

It's not very respectful for you to expect your mom to leave post-it notes in order to converse with her own child.

I don't like being interrupted either. You're just going to have to learn to cope with it. Sometimes I explode, especially if it's being interrupted from stimming, and I get annoyed if I'm interrupted from an interest, but at your age you should be able to cope with being interrupted during computer-time. Instead of exploding try focusing on breathing or stimming like rocking. People will think you're very rude and distant if you expect them to write post-it notes for you.

I wish I could help you, but I can't.

I have the same problem OP; I don't have speakers hooked-up. I only use my head-phones. My mom thinks I get upset because she assumes I'm looking at porn even when I'm not witch is most of the time. The comments she makes about it are pretty embracing

Personally I think it is justifiable homicide to strangle someone with their own headphones if they won't take the damned things off and listen to you.

I take em off 1ce I know they need to talk to me but they have no way to get my attention when I have em on except going in my room & flickering my lights because my computer is at the end of my room from the door so my back is to the door. What really annoys me is that I feel I have no privacy because I do NOT go in their room when their door is closed so I don't like em opening mine. If I used speakers instead of head-phones they would complain about the music/noise being to loud. When they put there music on in the house I find it very annoying especially if I'm trying to sleep.