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yes i know, its another one of these ones. where the OP in which case, is myself, b*****s about a person they care for that didnt work out, and is more complex than can be seen at first glance.

so this gal, I havent talked to in a month. i told her to not call me, not text me, not email me....nothing. my reasoning for cutting off my line of communication with her is because 'i fell in love with who she could have been'.

she really has the ability to be someone great, someone amazing, someone who would mean my world, but, unfortunatly, she doesnt take that route.

she left her newest ex of a year and a half because of something she always does. she did it to me, and now she will do it again.
she tried so hard to make me fall for her. i refused. her bf got jealous of me, she stopped seeing me. simple and easy right?

no. if her reasoning for not being with me, and mine for not wanting her, was all about her bf, then i dont see what the f**k is holding the situation back now.

you know why?

because she gave in and broke up with him so that she could go date other people, so that she could just get with his f*****g asswipe friends, just like he was, and f**k them senseless.

now. Here is what got me so livid.
she was a virgin. for one reason, and one reason alone.
HE HAD TOLD HER [because he is a die hard christ freak] THAT HE WOULD NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER UNTIL POST MARRIAGE.
that is the ONLY reason i was fine with it. she was happy, and he was a prick. and the only reason i put up with him, and acted so nice, regardless of him disliking me, is because he had these powerful convictions that VERY FEW MEN can give. he would have made her, or some other woman the only one, which means so much more than what he did do.

he broke those convictions, they did have sex. and now i hate him.
obviously she doesnt. she just needed a man who could be there for her [like me], and he couldnt give.
so he gave her that, and it breaks my heart to hear it.
it really does.
i would have been fine if she had never left him, and we never talked again, but no. they are just ANOTHER f*****g EXAMPLE THAT HAS YET TO PROVE ME WRONG. FIND ME A MEMBER OF MY GENERATION THAT HAS CONVICTIONS
THAT CAN OUTDO THE GODDAMNED SOCIAL GAME.

i talked with her today. she told me all of this. i cheered her up, and she called it a night.

i know what will happen.
she is going to hook up with another guy. and her BS excuses for not wanting me romantically will only worsen.

and i told her right now.
'you have options in life, you can change, and you can be an amazing person'
she said 'i know'

but i dont think she will.
even though she is given every chance to.

im making no sense. FML

Sorry, man. She's not your friend and she's hurting you. Let her go. Next time, stay away from the ones with boyfriends.

she really wants to be my friend. she just refuses to change.
she went to go f**k that other guy im assuming.
thats the only reason she would leave at 11pm to go to his place instead of talk to me

i was too late

I think that's a very insightful statement and I wish more people, NT and otherwise, would realize that sometimes we fall in love with a person who doesn't exist, but just almost exists.



I think if she had the ability to take it, she would. She likely harbors lack of insight, and certain perspectives, as well as perhaps other internal issues which prevent her from seeing or being able to realize there are other routs in her life to take. It might also be that as close as her personality is to what you would like it to be, it will never be what you'd like it to be.

It is much like when you need a standard ratchet set and only have metric. You will find a standard socket very close in size to the metric one you need, but it's not metric, and as close as it is, it just doesn't work because it is not metric. So it really isn't almost what you want it to be with the potential of becoming what you want it to be. It's only similar what you want it to be, but it's still entirely different.

Dude, I'm not sure if I'm in your generation physically or mentally, but I'm not having sex until marriage as I feel that it could possibly cause the relationship to need sex to keep it alive rather than love, and that can later on cause problems.

Dude, I know this kind of s**t sucks, and I think I was having similar events happen to me when I was your age.

Its painful, and it sucks, but it WILL get less painful the more you learn to deal with it.

I feel for you.

it is a pretty simple situation. You can either use her for sex if you want to keep her around or you can completely cut yourself off from her. She isn't going to be the one for you, so it will come down to those two choices.

congrats you had the most insightful statements.
you are very right good sir. very very right.

at sanchnuss, i could use her. but that isnt me. i dont need her in my life. cutting her out