Has anyone ever taken advantage of you?

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Since I have autism, I never really speak up. Whenever I want something, it's hard to reiterate what it is. I was just wondering if any of you have a similar problem.

I hung out with the wrong crowd with I was little (jocks,) it's a mistake I never want to make again...

So yeah

More than a few times.

I guess I need to over-come fear, and speak what's on my mind more when I'm with my family. Like me getting beer tomorrow, mmm.

I'm generally good at standing up for myself (and others), but have an unfortunate tendency not to notice when someone is taking advantage of me. I invariably project my own lack of malicious intentions onto others.

By "taking advantage", do you mean physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse or what?

Yes they have. My own friends, my internet friends and someone online pretended to be my friend just so he get something out of me and when I said no to it, he never responded again. Luckily I didn't show him my naked photos when he asked for them.

I sometimes think people are talking to me to get information out of me and going to another person and telling it to them what I said. But I keep trusting people. In high school kids would ask me what I think of someone and I would tell them and they go to that person and tell her what I said about her and they leave out the fact they asked me for my opinion. I was made out to be a gossiper and a rude person for saying bad things about this person. So I stopped answering their questions. I never knew why they did it. I recently learned what they did was a form of bullying. It's not surprising when few other aspies here have said the same thing was done to them.

My first ex also took advantage of me too. I was his meal ticket and he kept manipulating me and playing mind games and pretending he doesn't know how to do this or that and he is incapable. He kept coming up with excuses when I give him suggestions. I also think he used me for sex.

Then back in December I was manipulated by some woman because her son rear ended me and she claimed I was at fault. I was unaware of the Oregon law that the person behind you is always at fault unless you back into them. So she had her camera and tape recorder and said she would sue me if I took it to the insurance because of her back condition. I felt stupid for the whole thing when I realized what a b***h she was even though she acted all nice. Sadly I didn't know her license plate number so there was nothing I could do about it. Luckily the only damage I got was more paint being knocked off my bumper. I think she did it because she had no insurance as my husband suggested and someone here when I made a thread about it. So she thought she manipulate me hoping she get away with it and it worked. But if I were aware of that Oregon law, I would have told her go ahead and sue me and not be scared. I would have just taken down her license plate number and report it to the police later when I got back. I now keep a pen with me in the car. I don't remember if I had a pen then. But I am sure the situation would have been different if I knew the law. I remember I didn't have my phone with me.

I remember you posting about that League_Girl. Isn't it amazing how quickly some people can come up with a plan to screw somebody over? It astonishes me. I couldn't be that crafty if I wanted to be.

Me neither.

But it looks so simple to do but it's the guilt that would stop me from doing it and the fact I don't like to deceive. She must have had it all planned as I told my husband or else she wouldn't have that camera and tape recorder. Someone suggested here she may have done that to others as well.

Or it's possible her son had no license nor learner's permit and she was letting him drive and she was just protecting him so he wouldn't get in trouble with the law. My husband suggested maybe she was teaching him to drive. He looked to be a young adult like me.

Yes. Everyone except 2 people in my life.
Sexually, emotionally and physically.

Yes and no. My family members didn't mess with me. One bf was not very nice, but typically I couldn't maintain relationships long enough to allow someone to take advantage.

I was once occasionally pursued, seduced and then rejected. I don't know if this was because they realized I wouldn't make a good girlfriend because of my social awkwardness or just a pump and dump (charming term ).

Mostly it's been people who have come to me for support and then began to drain me dry.

LOL@ pump and dump

People have taken advantage of me many times, which caused me to be very distrustful of people in general. I have a hard time telling when someone is being authentic or not.

A bunch of young girls at my very first job used me. We were only allowed to sing, or talk about sex. I've stopped hanging around them, and started hanging out with the older, more mature crowd.

I feel most of my friends Ive had in the past were using me in someway or another. I am a generous person, I live comfortably, and I share with my inner circle of friends. Some of them took it upon themselves to steal, lie, manipulate. I remember the first real friend I had, he was a few years older then me. And there was a girl, who I had a major crush on, like 4 years in the making. Well, they got in contact with each other and they started exchanging secrets they knew about me and my parents. Some very secret stuff, and they kept emailing me, sending me messages, etc. I learned there and then I would never trust people in the same way again, my idea of what people are capable of was changed forever.

I still get the shaft everyone once and awhile, I think it's because i'm so nice.

I've been used unknowingly.