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sufi
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05 Oct 2010, 8:54 pm

I have been trying so hard to be a stronger person. Trying to stand up for myself.
Yet every single time, it comes out with someone pissed off at me.

I told my daughter-in-law to stop telling everyone in town and posting on facebook our own family estrangement and bad rapping family members. She gets mad.

I found an employee stealing money-- she gets mad and 1/2 the staff is mad for my accusations. They think I'm crazy, she would not do that, she's been here 5 years, everyone loves her and believes her.

I tell a customer (a son of my husband's friend no less) I can no longer afford to give him free items -- he gets mad, says he has been paying, I figure the stealing lying person has not been ring in his stuff, and just taking the money. I explain, apologize, he is still mad. Now I get to tell my husband that 'A' won't be coming around anymore.

Now I feel like a bitchy old lady. Most of the people I know are angry with me and don't believe anything I say. Why did I even open my mouth. It comes out all wrong.
So, now it is like they are all holding their breath waiting what I am going to say next.

I think I just want to become the cat lady in some woods, have food delivered to my door , and never have to see people again. I screw up all the time.
I think I need to up my meds and go back to therapy.


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05 Oct 2010, 11:08 pm

(((((((sufi))))))) Sorry you are not having a good time of it. I think that people are so invested in their social relationships at times, that they let people do things that are wrong, and let them get away with things they shouldnt. What I have learned about people, is that they often are not brave in their actions.

Also there are a lot of people, who dont understand that the internet is a public resource. I read someone saying "If you dont want it printed on the front page of the local newspaper, dont write it online." But some dont understand this.

It sounds like you need a break of sorts, anyway, and some me time..


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06 Oct 2010, 4:20 am

Thanks zen_mistress!

After sleeping on this I realized they are probably angry because I am not putting up with their stuff any more. Like I am not going to be their door mat and now they have to walk on bare floor.


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06 Oct 2010, 9:22 pm

lol, I call myself the Crazy Lady too. (I'm assuming you're using it in a semi-jokative fashion) You're more normal then the people you've just listed though, stealing/lying/b****ing are not socially acceptable behaviours. As long as you keep strong and keep on calling these people out, you'll be seen eventually as the reliable one.



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07 Oct 2010, 12:05 am

Here's a hug. :O)

Keep standing your ground. Those people need to realize, that you're not to be taken advantage of.


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08 Oct 2010, 9:28 am

ebec11 wrote:
lol, I call myself the Crazy Lady too. (I'm assuming you're using it in a semi-jokative fashion) You're more normal then the people you've just listed though, stealing/lying/b****ing are not socially acceptable behaviours. As long as you keep strong and keep on calling these people out, you'll be seen eventually as the reliable one.


+1

Another crazy lady here, lol! I've been through BS like that for so long, but the past two years I've been speaking my mind to everyone and not putting up with their crap. So now there's a few family members and "friends" who no longer speak to me, but it feels so much better without them. :D


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08 Oct 2010, 6:04 pm

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Another crazy lady here, lol! I've been through BS like that for so long, but the past two years I've been speaking my mind to everyone and not putting up with their crap. So now there's a few family members and "friends" who no longer speak to me, but it feels so much better without them. Very Happy


Ya, I do believe I will make some people unhappy with me but I can no longer tolerate 'Toxic People' Oh, my lord, the Drama Queens are emerging, clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right.

I also found out a lot of my staff are not angry with me.
Many think the customer involved is a slug, act like a baby, has traded food for drugs, is 29, fat & on disability, lives with his parents and does not give them a dime. Good Riddance!

Buy me a can of 'whoop ass' and 'toxic people begone'
Thanks everyone,
I don't know why this all upset me now that I found my footing.


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10 Oct 2010, 12:03 pm

Know the feeling well.

Don't let it get you down. In the kingdom of the jerks, there are still places the righteous can hang out.

I won't tell you about my brother, just more of the same.



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10 Oct 2010, 12:35 pm

I've felt like the crazy lady, many times.


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11 Oct 2010, 1:20 pm

You kick their goddam cheating asses!!

I'm a landlord. Even normally well balanced people have irrational aversion to landlords.

And bosses like you are often universally disliked also. For no good reason except

SMALL MINDEDNESS 8)