Too Clingy?

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First I am female with aspergers, ahem;

I was told even as child I didn't know how to moderate my um connection? With people as in I was too overly affectionate. As an adult I've been described by exes as too clingy and I think one almost said I was pyschotic. Honestly I'm not >_< I think I just worry about pleasing them and also thinking oh they're going to leave me cause I'm not perfect enough. Does anyone else have these troubles while in a relationship? Sadly my relationships never lasted past two months : / because I either broke up first afraid of being rejected like I was rejected my entire childhood from peers. And one person actually said I didnt' talk to them enough. So try too hard or not hard enough. How do you find the middle? The balance?

I try not to be clingy, and understand when people might need their space. In turn, I occasionally need some "me" time at times.

But I won't know if they need a lot of personal space unless they let me know ahead of time.

I think I need to be more clingy. I seem to have to reassure that person that I feel the same way they do. I usually want to assess how things are going and slowly ease my way into a deeper relationship instead of falling head over heels for someone. I think it is hard for me to believe that someone is being sincere with me at first. Of course, I am out of practice either way. I could of changed. Nah

Yes, I have been. My tendency is to cluster all my attention on a central person in a situation, rather than spread my attention around and this may be construed as clingy. Typically, my attention will center on someone of high rank, or someone who has been doing most of the talking. I try not to do this so much anymore.

I'm very clingy in a relationship. I think that's because I have an extremely hard time connecting with people & have very few friends so the one time I had someone close to me I didn't want to be away from her. I became obsessed with her. I tend to go for women that other guys would complain about being clingy but lots of the clingy women I've met won't give me a chance because they want someone independent I wish there was a codependent support group near me

Me and my girlfriend are both extremely clingy. It's part of why we fit together so damn well. My ex, however, couldn't stand my cling.

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Hey Nitz, I love you. <3

Really, I have nothing else to say here. I'm that boring.

No.

I hate clingy. I also hate passive clingy.

I may need to be clingy,but not overly clingy.

I'm way too clingy for most peole. My first ex dumped me because of the emberresement I caused him by it, my second ex, even the most un-clingy person, couldn't care less, and my current boyfriend (AKA Yanlin) is even clingier than I am...(which is annoying only when I get anxious about family members disapproving it. )

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Have DCD,ADHD, and many others (and possible AS). Husband-to-be has AS/PDD.
Name: call me Nitz.
Age: 16
Obsession: Neuro-psychology, my boyfriend, neurology (stopped denying it).
Illy, I love you.

I've never been called clingy, but I don't see the problem with it either.

I've only been called clingy once and that was when I cuddled my boyfriend at the time too much.
I need a lot of my own time, like to do certain things alone and would work better with someone who needed the same.

I dont know

I only had one girlfriend and that was kinda insane. She was pretty mean and didn't have many friends so she was pretty clingy I guess. I guess I was clingy too, but more mental. That was five years ago. I dont know how I would be these days. I don't really know whats appropriate when it comes to giving people space. I try to give people space but then it just gets awkward trying to pick things back up