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What do people talk about? The thing that we all share somewhat, random stuff, or what?
All three would be relevant and worthwhile pursuits for conversing. Some of us may be more articulate and imaginative in what we would converse some of us may be a bit rigid in what we talk about. For example, I can usually talk to death about issues regarding the work I do which involves aspergers syndrome, so I can talk someone to death quite easily around both the personal aspects of my own asperger experiance and the professional aspects of my knowledge and role in the work I do. It kinda is one of my obsession's too I guess
Sometimes its quite satisfying to find another aspie who shares a similair interest to yourself and share your enjoyment of that pursuit/passion/interest/hobby with each other.
Sometimes maybe you have nothing in common with the other person you meet who has AS and you simply have the possiblity of having your perceptions and opinions on a certain matter challenged or the chance for a person to share with you an area of interest to them that they are passionate about that you have no experiance of at all and thus you gain an insight into something you perhaps would never have been exposed too in your own personal life circumstances.
I find a good way of making enemies quickly is to bring up politics and relgion particularly if you have strong passionate views on a given principle and feel it is a moral outrage if someone contradicts or challenges your viewpoint on that. Aspies not neccesarily being the most diplomatic chaps on the planet this can sometimes lead to wonderful confrontations that spiral out of control, very rare but does happen sometimes. People are people after all AS or not.
I'm quite tolerant patient for the most part so I don't mind having to make an extra effort to communicate with someone if they are not natural or comfortable in a group situation. But likewise, im happy for people to simply come along and be the silent observers or "flys on the wall" if they wish i sometimes do the same in the local london groups when i feel i dont have the mental energy to socialise directly but still would prefer the company and presence of conversation instead of sat at home alone.