Is it possible that have AS but looks normal?

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Is it possible that have AS but looks normal?
I went to several therapies before, they thought that I was just came through depression, not have AS.
They said that most people with Asperger syndrome always make troubles or been bullied by peers. In their opinions, AS is
easy to identify by the patient's odd behavior and the conflict with peers.
Contrary to these examples, I am a quite person and a peaceful follower, so I am considered an introvert, that's all. Actually I fit in almost
every traits such like intense interests, some compulsive behavior and socially awkwardness. But I seldom let out any signs about my
aggression or emotions, I tend to avoid contacting with people rather than disturb them. I also try to be a nice person and I done pretty
well. But I still feel strong sense of solitary and misunderstanding.

What is the definition of odd? I never consider myself as a normal person, but every time I turn to someone for help, they always tell
me I am normal by observing the way I talk and act,... or think? Just like one of the therapies told me, she diagnosed a girl who cannot
understand social rules and offended her classmates; A man couldn't control his anger then hit someone else. Do most AS act
like this?? Dose anyone here is an introvert like me, do not make troubles and good at disguising feelings? I am just confused. How do
people with AS look like, constantly talking about interests, make no eye contact or...

well i have As and I have 2 arms, 2 legs, a head, 2 eyes, a nose , anda mouth, all in the normal places

It looks like a cow licked my head. Beautiful!

I am close to thirty now, and I have lived for more than twenty years lived with my parents (do so right now) and I have kept close contact by frequent visits and phone calls when I was living elsewhere. They think I am odd, there are many instances where they don't know what I am talking about, they have always been concerned with why I wasn't getting along with my peers. Still, I don't think they suspect that it might be some kind of disorder, let alone something as blatant as ASD. Apart from my ex-girlfriend who I shared a flat with for about six years and who is studying psychology (very close to finishing her studies even), I do not think that anybody around me even suspect anything of that nature.

Assuming that people with AS always have conflicts with their peers is not exactly a good idea. It is quite possible for someone to withdraw socially because he wants to avoid the conflict that would happen if he didn't. Many Aspies, especially females, will slip under the radar that way. Now, when you do interact, it will be very awkward and odd; but it can be less apparent if you are very introverted and don't interact as much.

People with AS do look like normal people and I have thought the milder you are, the more normal you appear to others. The more severe you are, the more off you are going to look.

But as a child kids knew I was different and that didn't put me at severe or moderate so I guess it depends on the aspie and how bad their traits are. I just had very bad social skills and was clumsy and kids thought I was ret*d or stupid and I had all these other labels like show off or mean or rude, selfish, spoiled.

Now my mother says no one will guess I have something wrong with me.

I seem normal. I've never had a lot of friends, but I don't have conflicts with others. I was never bullied. I've always been quiet and reserved enough that people were unable to see the extent of my social difficulties. Being quiet and polite is a great strategy if you don't want people to think you have a disorder.

Oh my God this is the problem in my life!! !

I look totally normal but secretly inside I am an alien!! ! Even my own family think I'm normal, they just think I CHOOSE to be the way I am. This is the most frustrating thing in my entire life

It took them so long to diagnose because my ONLY obvious symptoms are internal.

I'm thinking there is an English as a Second Language problem here. The opening post seems to be asking if you can have asperger's even if symptomatically you are not displaying traits, not that your physical appearance is typical.

Every person that I've told has said that I look normal to them, so I guess I look normal.

CaptainTrips222

I suspect that some aspeis look quite normal and already learned how to avoid troubles. I don't want to be labeled only
as personality disorder or depression because doctors will just prescribe me some pills and ask me to make more friends
and attempt more activities.

FluffyDog

Most of the people cannot distinguish personal characters and weird behavior from mental disorders, especially they have no concept
about autism and aspergers. If someone do not believe in you at the first place, it seems that they can rationalize everything occurs
to you. I always frustrate by this kind of people, they don't want to listen to me but try to change me. I think, at least in my case, I need
a proper treatment to rebuild my collapsing life...

Callista

I did read some books about AS, it's true that there are lots of people with AS have various problems. I never meet other aspei in person so
I have no idea how others look like. But I do believe that most aspeis have conflict with classmates or teachers (actually I have, but the fights
never gone too far and my teacher didn't think it is a big deal at all). Sometimes I feel confused about that, I didn't constantly make troubles
and study well at school. In theirs views, I am just a intelligent and silent person occasionally do stupid things, which could be considered as
"normal".

Simonono

"CHOOSE to be the way " is the worst comment in the world. Yes, I had been told this way, but think about that, who would like to
choose the way even he don't want to be? It's make no sense.


wavefreak58
Thanks for your advise. My English is poor , I am studying very hard to improve it ...

naturalplastic

The person you described sound like me. At the beginning, my peers usually noticed that I am shy only , but after getting along with
me for a while they started to think that I am a weird person. Good at disguising may be useful for me to deal with people, but it
also blurs my symptoms. Recently I am searching for help and diagnosis, but I still very concern about how doctors views my condition.
Because I "looks fine" and rarely disturb other people, they tend to ease my depression without finding out what cause it.
I really hope to find a therapy who can have insight into my invisible handicap.

And thanks all of you reponsed this topic.