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Does anyone hate it when people change things in your room or when your parents clean your room? I'm 21 and living in an on-campus apartment at my school, so it's not a problem for me here. My dad, however, cleans my room at home when I'm here. So, going home on breaks is really weird for me, because it doesn't feel like home. He doesn't get it that I HATE HATE HATE it. I've tried explaining that it's like he's invaded my private world and torn it apart, but he still does it...
So, are any of you the same?

Haha, when I was younger all I wanted was for my mom to clean up messes I made but she wouldn't have it. She wanted me to clean up everything. During my teenage years, I got more territorial about my room and could clean it myself, but I can see your point. It feels like your space is being violated.
Is your room in need of a little straightening, like dusting and vacuuming, or is it a disaster area? If my room was really bad, I would be so grateful if my mom cleaned it for me. Especially dusting the furniture and ceiling fan since I am allergic to it and I break out when I do it.

When I was a teenager my parents didn't need to come in and clean my room because I actually kept it clean myself! No seriously, you could actually see the floor because I put my clothes in the dresser and I dusted my furniture and vacumed my floor! My non-aspie brother's room on the other hand was a real mess I couldn't understand how he could enjoy being in a room with stale food and junk all over the place. My room was even cleaner than my parents! Yes, I was a seriously abnormal child.

Oh it REALLY bothers me. I can't stand it when someone messes with my things.

It annoys me, but I don't HATE it.

Its one of the most inconsiderate things a person can do, meddling with things that don't belong to them. Its a form of violation not very different from outright burglary.

Buy a big bag of those sturdy wooden mouse traps with the spring loaded metal bar and hide them under things, like porn in a sock drawer.

I used to yell and get upset when someone moved things around in my room. In fact if anybody touched anything of mine I would get upset. I do not think it is quite as bad now (no yelling) but I feel very very uncomfortable if someone is in my room or touches my things, and so nobody is allowed to except with permission.

This can be viewed as selfishness, but that isn't the motive. I can't think of many comparisons someone that wasn't autistic would understand. I assume it might be a little like someone inappropriately touching you or making you really uncomfortable to the point you want to get away.

The only thing I dont like about other cleaning my room is that I cant find anything. Even though it can be messy...I still know where everything is. Maybe you should clean his room and rearrange his stuff. Some people dont understand how their behavior effects others until it is done to them.

Mom didn't clean our rooms much as a kid, she made us do it. She rarely cleaned our rooms and the only things she did usually was vacuum, getting dirty clothes, and maybe dusting. I dusted my own room as a kid when I got older. That stuff never bothered me. It only bothered me when she change my room around or closet but she usually consult me first before doing it. But at times she just wanted to surprise me and I remember hating it but never had a cow about it.

I think cleaning your kids room just teaches them they don't need to do it because mommy does it. So they would grow dependent on you. My mom would ground my brothers if they didn't clean their rooms. She never gave in and did it for them.

When we were all little, she'd help us clean our room because little kids don't know what clean is or how to do it so you do it with them to show them. When my brother was a teen mom had to help my brother clean the playroom one time because he had his own perception of what clean is so mom had to do it with him to show him and she used to inspect his bedroom and the playroom to make sure it's clean like he says it is.

This bothers me a lot. Fortunately, my parents are respectful of this, partly because it meant I didn't complain about having to clean my own room. Now that I live on-campus, my mom vacuums and dusts my room at home, but she knows better than to rearrange the furniture or something.

Hate pretty much sums it up. Unfortunately my family was not considerate of this and sometimes I have this paranoid idea that they are even trying to do it on purpose. After some thinking, I think they are just acting like family (lack of boundaries).

Yes, I used to hate that because then I wouldn't know where everything is anymore and it would be stressful having to look for it but I wouldn't overeact about it though unless it was something important to me.

I absolutely hate it when my parents enter my room when I'm not around. They don't even have to actually touch anything, just knowing they have been in my private little retreat behind my back upsets me. I am fine with them visiting me in my room when I am there and I do not spend much of my awake time there anyway, but somehow I need the feeling of safety that knowing that there is a place no one else but me messes with gives me.

I am the same. I find it extremely frustrating if anything is moved or "tidied". If I get home from work and my bedroom windows are open, I know my mum has been in there "tidying" and I can expect a nightmare once I reach the top of the stairs.
There is a very good explanation for this kind of behavior at http://pk-productions.dyndns.info/aspie-zone/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=12&t=12
You may find it quite interesting. It will be going into a new film about Asperger's.

I have an obsessive-complusive person at my workplace who is known to 'tidy up' after people, even if they are only gone to the loo. Since I am a fairly tidy person, I do hate it when I come back after 10 minutes and find that my things have been rearranged and even that the lights over my station were turned off.
I'm not anybody's relaxation toy for God's sake and I won't crumple under anybody's control issues so I did my best to scare the person enough so as to give me a wide berth. Then she proceeded with writing notes full of rather manic rules and regulations, which I - and everybody else, as a matter of fact - happily ignores. Mind, the woman is not a health and safety officer and she works under me, actually, but since when have I been able to manage people? I really don't want to see what the next stage might be. She looks and acts paranoid enough to jump on my throat next time I place a pen out of line with the others.

But I digress, yes, I do hate when people rearrange my things, I like to have them in my own way, thanks a bunch.