Why can't my family be more understanding?

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This isn't more or less a question, but a rant.

Here goes:

My grandparents, love them to death but my god, could someone educate them about AS? My grandfather said something along the lines of: "Well, if you have that disease then you need to go to an institution, where you can be studied." My grandmother is clueless about AS.

My mother, fails to understand AS. She talks to me like I'm a child.

My aunts think that AS is a crock. The worst offender of this, is my aunt who lives in California. She can't even look at me without total disgust.

OK, that's just funny.


That's what grandmothers are for. You're lucky.


No matter how young you are, you won't be a child for very much longer. Buy her a book and tell her how much you'd appreciate her reading it.


Give her the same disgusted look right back. 'Cause she deserves it.

I forgot to add how much my grandfather likes to brag about how all the OTHER grandchildren are doing in college and how he always has to add his little snide remarks on how I will not add to much because one of my cousins is in all honors courses at UCLA, or my other cousin is a mechanical engineer who graduated from UC Davis. I should also mention that he also has high disdain for my other cousin who took a semester off from college. This just makes the hatred for my family more pure. I'm going to prove to them that I can be somebody or something. Hell, my grandmother enjoys reading my short story collections, as do most of my friends; I even have had one of my short stories published in the campus newspaper.

I like it when other people look down on me. It's a lot easier to f**k with people if they underestimate your abilities. As for family, I know what you mean man. As for your grandfather, that's why we have middle fingers, and there is a reason the middle finger is the longest. Forget your aunt. She lives in California, and people in California usually suck. If she glares at you, make a goofy face back. That should throw a wrench into her plans. And while she is momentarily distracted trying to figure out what happened, walk away. Hopefully, you won't have to deal with her for the rest of that day. And if you do, make more faces. Stick out your tongue.

OK, that's definitely not the harmless old senile grandfather I pictured from your original post.

I know you know that you're not alone in being misunderstood and underappreciated in all of this. Tough when it's your own family. Like it's not hard enough already???

At least my Dad(my parents divorced), who I strongly suspect has AS understands me. I'm thinking about going to go visit him again some time soon(He lives in upstate NY)

I once told my grandmother I was vegetarian on being presented with Scotch Broth (soup with minced beef). She looked at me in complete confusion and said... 'Och, away. It's only wee bits?!'

That's funny.

Families are groups of people who have nothing in common and who but for an accident of birth would never even know one another. Try it - pick ten people at random off the street and try to get them to get one another ofr act as a unit. My grandparents were close to yours, though different in tactics.

This is my my sister offended my mother, saying she felt her circle in the commune were her real family.

It will not change - everyone talks about the weather but...

It's almost like I'm more accepted where I work than at home.

Not really a surprise. Though I managed to be unacceptable a lot of places.

I guess I feel like that too but I have an answer for that behaviour. When your grandparents and mother were young AS didn't exist yet. And they learned many things but not about AS. So now that the time has passed it is more difficult to them learn new things and change their lifestyles. On the other hand, it is easier for you to learn new things because you are young. So I think that you have to be pacient with them. Well even that they say things do not sound very well for you you have to think "it is ok, he does not know very much about the subject and didn't mean to harm". I hope this helps.

I disagree with you on a lot of things, but I feel that way. It just seems my mom just won't accept me for what I am and my dad is very, very passive and won't take a stand.

Well, Thanksgiving is coming up. I dread it.

Well, today is the day. Wish me luck.

I am the same. My mom doesn't get my love for aviation. She thinks that rather than buying an RC plane, I should save up for going up in a glider, in which I badly want to do, but very low chance of doing it often. So, I need RC to fill the gap. But she doesn't think in pictures like I do and she has no interests in aviation.