Anyone else has "oh s**t" moments years later?

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Here is a "oh s**t" (probably better if I don't say that word here lol) moment I had a few days ago lol, it was due to my tendancy to just tell the truth or say how I feel without realising it could be misunderstood.

One of my brother in law built houses, really beautiful big houses. Then he proudly gives us a tour of some of the houses, which as I said were big. Well usually I prefer a smaller house, because I think I would feel a little lost in a huge house eventho there is some very cool old houses that I like ... so anyway I said something like "yeah it looks nice but its not my kind of house at all, its way too big" ... that happened about 5 years ago but I remembered that a few days ago and realised how rude I probably sounded, and at the time I noticed he wasn't smiling anymore and didn't understand why lol now I do ... sigh I did think his houses were beautiful tho, but I probably should have kept my comment for myself.

This happens to me quite often, I didn't understand at the moment, but then for some reason I think about it later (sometimes years later) and then I realise what I did. Same thing happens about comments from others too.

Shadi

I'm not sure if it's the same thing but I've had things happen to me that I was oblivious too when they happened and years later went "Oh wow."

I won't go into full details, but when I was maybe six an older man used to lure me into his garage. He did a few times... maybe 3 times. I only recalled this memory yesterday and went "Oh wow that's kinda odd ." Realistically he seemed very kind but what would an older gentleman want to do with showing a 6 year old boy cool things? I also realized that he could have grabbed me and shut the garage door behind us and nobody would have suspected a thing. I'm not saying he was a bad person... but I even remember my parents telling me not to trust strangers and junk... so just thinking about what could have happened had he been a bad man is pretty scary/creepy.

Yes that's exactly what I'm talking about, something you said, or someone said or did, and you realise later it was odd, or you said something wrong, etc

Shadi

I've never really forgotten all the asinine things I've said. Annoying thing is that I never forgive myself for the things I've said, then get paranoid about how people could use that against me somehow.

Yes! If I have had enough rest and food, I have fewer outbursts (but when I do have them they're doozies) When I'm trying to carry on a conversation with people that I'm still getting to know, I try to take note of things that I probably shouldn't comment about.

For example: If they told me that they used to be alcoholics, never make jokes about alcohol. Okay, duh, lame example, but it can get quite complex in my head. When I'm tired or feeling punchy, it's hard not to let the one-liners rip.

Since I've been reading more about ASD, a lot of things from my teenage years especially make much more sense now. I was constantly p*ssing people off and could never figure out why.

My constant inner mantra: "You shoud stop talking NOW!!"

WOW!?!
ME TOO... WHEN IN MY TEENS I HAD GIRLS HIT ON ME ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL THE TIME.... AND NEVER KNEW IT TILL YEARS LATER... ONCE. I WENT TO A GIRLS HOUSE TO STUDY, THEN SHE CAME OUT IN HER UNDIES. AND ASKED "DO I LOOK FAT"... ----SHE WANTED "IT"----DUH... BUT I SAID. "DO YOU WANT ME TO BE HONEST".... SHE SAID "YEAH"... I WENT IN DETAIL AND TALKED ABOUT ALL HER FLAWS, PUBES, THE MOLE ON HER NECK, ETC... AND JUST OUT RIGHT EMBARRASED THE HE77 OUT OF HER... AT THE TIME I DIDNT KNOW WHY SHE WAS SOOOOOOOOOO MAD AT ME... LMAO.... I COULD OF GOTTEN LAID BUT HAVING A/S I WAS BEING MY SELF........

ANOTHER TIME I ASKED MY MATH TEACHER--- WHO WAS GREY--- IF HER PUBES WERE THE SAME COLOR AS HER HEAD... I ENDED UP FLUNKING THAT CLASS...LOL..

NOW IN MY 20'S.... RECENTLY I WENT TO A CLUB WITH MY FRIENDS. THEY HOOKED ME UP WITH A WOMAN... I ORDERED 2 DRINKS AND PAID FOR 1... SHE THOUGHT I WAS RUDE. I DIDNT UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPT OF PAYING FOR HER TOO.... DON FEEL BLUE, ME TOO.

Yes, I just remembered something my fourth-grade art teacher said to me that made me realize he understood me even when I didn't.

I'm facebook-stalking him now.

Caps lock hurts my head.
But yes. One thing I always feel bad about is when I saw a photo of my grandmother as a young woman and I said, wow, she was pretty when she was young, not wrinkly like now. And she felt bad, but I didn't understand why. I liked her wrinkly!

I got a good one!
I was working at this place for about 2 months. One day everyone was all excited because this girl named Peggy was coming back to work.
Well during lunch break someone ask me how I was feeling. I had stayed up late playing guitar so I was tired. I said " I feel like I've been hit by a truck".
Dead silence. Everyone is staring at me. There may have been some really dirty looks, it's hard for me to tell.
I found out later that Peggy had been off work for 2 month because her fiance was..................................... You guessed it. Hit by a truck and killed.
It hurts to think about it.

yeah theres a lotta moments from highschool that I realized what I did wrong later. Up to 2 years into college I used to get really ashamed of those moments but I had to remember that it doesnt matter now and Im probably the only 1 that still remembers it.

One time I had a speaker and she asked us if we had any questions. I rose my hand and asked her if she dyed her hair. I did not mean anything by that, I was curious, but she was mad at me and said I am not going to answer that.

I remember such things from years ago all the time, they just pop into my mind, and when I do I often swear out loud (as in the thread title) or just audibly groan because I feel bad/embarrassed about it. Thankfully this usually happens when no one else is around.