Joining in with forum atmospheres

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How do you deal with joining in with forum in-jokes and just generally fitting in with a forum sense of humour? I seem to be just doing the same kind of joking around that everyone else does and everyone has weird reactions when I just repeat the stuff everyone else does. It sort of makes me feel down and feel a little humiliated that I seem to be getting it wrong.

I just ignore the jokes and speak my mind, by posting whatever I'm thinking about.

don't feel bad, fitting-in places is not high on the list of things to do before passing on, in the grand scheme of things. but just the same, humor [humour?] can be learnt even by the most solemn of people. there are requirements/techniques to humor, the first being originality. a joke said twice is seldom as funny as when it was said the first time. so make a pertinent but funny modification to the joke, augmenting it. you can learn this by watching other people yuk it up. learn by imitation, and practice by imitation until you internalize your own style of humor which tickles you best. the late comedian ed wynn said "a funny person is not one who says funny things, but is one who says things funny." ponder that. if you pay attention, you can find funny things all around you, especially in the newspaper- be like professional comedians and store these little funny tidbits, enhance and augment them to amplify their humor for later relating to other people.

One word: awkward.

When I first join a forum and am trying to settle myself in I hold back a bit. You've seen me here. I confident to speak here and we don't have many in-jokes except for Autism Speaks.
Lately when I join forums I haven't held back and I've been nervous about checking the replies. I'm much more impulsive these days.

Also, humor is really subjective. Nobody gets what I joke about half the time, on internet and off. I'm just glad there are other Monty Python's Flying Circus fans out there.

I guess it's not generally being funny it's just there's common phrases that others use as a joke but when I used the same phrase they were like I can't believe you said that. It kinda is like being pointed out for being different and it kinda made me feel like an idiot for just repeating the joke.

I suppose things can be misinterpreted. By the way, I love your avatar.

Hehe Thank you It's by Edward Monkton, you can buy lots of things with it on.

I sorta feel a bit better now, I was kind of upset and crying a bit when I posted this thread but I've found an Oliver Sacks documentary to watch on youtube.

Pensieve > "Also, humor is really subjective. Nobody gets what I joke about half the time, on internet and off. I'm just glad there are other Monty Python's Flying Circus fans out there.
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So true. For me, ULTIMATE is the Cheese Shop. Which I have found some do not get and some find annoying, but by me superb scripting / timing.

I don't know if it's an issue for you, but when I was younger I didn't realize the importance of familiarity. Two people can tell the same joke, but if one is not well-known to the group and the other isn't, the reaction can be very different. It's like you can razz someone you know by saying something that would be insulting to a stranger or distant aquaintance.

There are actually 2 adult autistics over age 30 I know of who also tended to do that (though I think they figured it out). They forget that the way that they know people in their head is not how those people know each other. And I tend to do it also if I'm not thinking.

f**k them you're not here to please anyone. Just write what you want.

i do not try to fit in with the atmosphere of a forum. i am not programmed for general humor. there is a subtle social dynamic that most of the popular posters subscribe to, and i have never sought to align myself with it because i have not the social intelligence to be able to understand it.

i do not use emoticons, because i do not really understand what they represent, and so my posts have a stark and barren sterility about them i suppose.

i do not see this site as a receptacle of succor for my own isolated being because i know i am very different in essence to most other people, and therefore i do not blend with their process of interaction.

for me to try to pretend that i am like them and talk like them would ring very hollow to them and it would be evident to their social antennae that i was fraudulent.

for me to try to fit in to the relaxed social merriment of this site would be like a pebble of fools gold trying to go unnoticed in a box of golden nuggets under the appraisal of a team of jewelers.

for you i am not sure what to say, but your sentiment seems to be innocent and i hope that others can accept you under their wings, and that with time, you can be proudly expressive of yourself in the pattern of your and their plumage.

you have a heart that longs for a fluid involvement with those you feel can be your good friends, and i just have a tired old brain that wedges itself defiantly between the slats of a forum full of people that i perceive as "talking toys" that i mostly want to raise the eyebrows of. if i can raise a simple eyebrow (even in incredulity), then i have some effect on the world of people. i am permanently socially defunct.

but you can raise the admiration people have for you because you care in a deeper way than i could ever. the fact you care will resolve in acceptance and appreciation from those you wish to be accepted by in the long run.

keep joining in, and people will accept you when they see you as a continuous contributor with a good heart, and they will eventually assimilate you into their routine expectations to a point where they will miss you if you depart.

you do not have to be smart or funny. you just have to have that ingredient of "humanity", and even though i have not that ingredient, i can see that you do.



whatever...i can smell burning transistors and so i know i have surpassed my limited ability to process external reality unrelated to myself.

if they are both not well known, then wherein lies the difference?

Aww, that's sad. You're better than the other nuggets in the box.

I rather like your stark sterility. I don't think I'll ever say that to another human being again.

You are yourself, and some people respect that.

I have found that there is a higher level of confusion here about what is a joke and what is not. I think it is because aspies are inclined to take things literally when they may be meant facetiously, sarcastically, or as a pun.

We is what we is.

It helps to use emoticons, even if they can be annoying.

And there are some of me who habitually joke meaning every word.

Just be an idiot, that's the best way.