CoWorkers make me want to kill myself...

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Ok so I landed a job a few months back. Well, somehow they royally screwed up my address and phone number so I sat and wondered wtf was going on and finally got things figured recently.
The job is one thing, but the employers and employees are totally unorganized, rude, lazy, and just down right ignorant. I have never recieved any training, I still really have no idea what I'm supposed to be doing so I just stand around and ask "Is there anything I can do to he--" which usually garners a snappy response such as, "Yeah yeah, you take da regista I don't feel like dealin' wif all dat sh*t." Fine, I like the register, and I can't believe I even have the balls enough to be a cashier, it's too social for my taste and yet money IS money so meh.
Dropping nachos all over the floor after a snarky coworker stacked too many treys in my arms? I brushed it off, and for that I was proud. Being taken advantage of for having a strong work ethic and being forced to cashier even though the job I was assigned was to SERVE the food? No biggy. Being made fun of for being on a healthy diet? Annoying as hell but easily pushed aside. Being yelled at like a dog, being told I can't do anything right, being told I am slow, being called boring because I don't go to "parties", being asked if I'm a virgin, and being outwardly laughed at and ridiculed by young black kids that know NOTHING about me? Now that's going too damn far. I'd even go as far as to say that EVERY single person there is racist against white people. They treat me and the other handful of white employees (which I believe to be a racial quota) like garbage and it seriously hurts my feelings because I'm very timid and I'm just there to work. I've tried socializing and having friends and I hated it. I was bullied all through school for being kind and polite and empathetic to others, I thought that once I got into the work place there would at least be SOME professionialism and detachment from that petty high school mentality. Boy was I ever wrong!
This is my first job ever, and I haven't even recieved my first working paycheck yet (I did get paychecks for attending alcoholic training even though I'm under 21 and can't obtain a liquor license so it was utterly useless anyway...) but I'm already ready to throw in the towel. I thought my days of being mercilessly bullied for being a good person were OVER but that doesn't seem to be the case. I was suicidal in my school days, and those suicidal thoughts are starting to creep up again because I just find it hard to respect living in a world where hurting others is the norm and being kind, quiet, and reclusive is cause to be verbally burned at the stake.

That sounds like a pretty horrible introduction to the working world. I think all of us aspies have to deal with at least some frustration in dealing with coworkers, but some situations do require a quick escape. I have dealt with similar incompetent fools, the kind that switch my first and last name on my paycheck and lie to me to get me to do their work for them. It's so frustrating when we work our asses off trying to be good employees helping out where necessary only to be ridiculed and taken advantage of. I guess there are just scummy people out there and we have to do all we can not to let them drag us down.
Different jobs seem to have different degrees of professionalism so your next job could be a much better situation. I've been where I just dread and hate the thought of going in to work and dealing with mean, ignorant, greedy, lazy coworkers and customers. I definitely wanted to get hit by a bus when I was in that situation, but things did improve and I'm sure they will for you too.

As a 55-year-old it is my unfortunate obligation to welcome you to the rest of your life. It ain't gonna change.

Being mercilessly bullied for being a good person is an unavoidable byproduct of the endless supply of people who suck and their endless demand for good people to bully.

Good news about being a good person: You're a good person

Better news about being a good person: There will be times when you make a difference nobody else could have or would have made otherwise, and even though most times the person(s) in whose lives you've made a difference won't know, you always will and that's all that matters.

Best news about being a good person: At some point you will encounter an arrogant smug bully on a power trip who mistakenly assumes his being in a position to abuse his authority over you somehow also makes him smarter than you, leading him to violate Page One of the Bullies Handbook: Bullies Always Win When Victims Can't Fight Back, Bullies Always Lose Fair Fights.

The look in a bully's eyes when you push back is priceless; you instantly see the sniveling little coward he always was. Make him squirm before you proceed to wipe the floor with him.

Being right all the time isn't easy, but the benefits are always worth it in the end.