Should I tell her I have AS?

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I'm not sure if I should tell her that I have AS or not, she is NT and I don't know if she would accpet me, but I don't want to mess this up, she is only the 3rd gf I've ever had. Any advice?

It's likely better to wait till the relationship is more stable and she has accepted you as you are in my opinion.

nah.. I mean, if she knew she probably wouldn't care, but I'd just leave it alone if things are already working out.

I mean, she is very accpeting, with her mother being an ordained minister and everything, but I'm just afraid that she might not see me in the same way, I mean, I don't want her to just stay with me out of pitty or something.

Thats a good reason not to tell her. If you tell her, you'll never be able to tell if she thinks of you differently. ON the other hand, if she hasn't noticed by now, you probably don't have a serious enough case to really even need to mention it.

Actully, she has noticed, but she thinks I'm really really really really really addicted to caffine, she doesn't know its AS, and I haven't actully told one way or the other soo.

I found a new girl at a New Years 2005 party and told her about my A.S. right away.

We spent a few hours together and I could tell that she was really into me.

My guess is that girls like it when guys keep it real.

I think your just a lucky guy.

Factors worth noting:

1. She seemed like the quietest girl at the party of 30 girls

2. She was my Mom's friend

3. The party was at my house

Your mom's friend? I try and keep my gf's as far away from my ma as possible.

I guess I'm not a really good judge of people, she is not an NT, she is a AS as well, which makes me much more comfortable. (BTW, she didn't just say that, it was her ma who did.)

I suppose I'm not a very good judge of people either. I'm completely stumped as to why you don't simply tell her if she has AS as well. People tend attract towards people who are more like them so your AS qualities probably improved the situation.

I told my friend I had AS early in our friendship. She kinda just said really and we havent said a thing about it since. Maybe when things are more serious I might sit down and really tell her about it but until then things are great as they are.

I think you should tell her when you feel the time is appropriate. I don't think it changes who you are. I believe it help your relationship it will communicate your differences than a NT. Then you two could communicate each others need and improve the relationship. How will you guys know what you want if you don't tell each other your telepathic ha. It comes all down to what you think is right.

Yeah, I worry about this too. With relationships, be it a friend or a potential love interest, i don't tell them I have AS. Not until I feel totally comfortable with the person, and have got to know them pretty well. It could be a deal breaker, so maybe I ought to just say it straight up. If someone can get over the fact you have AS and still like you for who you are, then you've found a true friend. Someone worthy of your time.

Of course, many people shun me because I'm a little unconventional or 'odd'. If someone does like you as a person, telling them you have AS shouldn't change that.