If something is stressing you out, how do you cope?

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If something is stressing you out, do you try and trick your subconscious into thinking that something else is more important than that so it doesn't completely take over your whole life? Stressful situations seem to have this way of permeating my entire existence until they are over. I find it impossible to keep the stressful situation in it's place, whether that be at work, or other compartment of my life.

So, what I do, is try and make something else my first and most important focus instead. For example, if you are having a problem at work, do you come home and play your computer or playstation/xbox and pretend that the challenge you are solving on that game is more important than the problem at work? Like the most important thing in your life is solving that game?

I have tried this, and it works, but only for about an hour or so, for the duration of the game. When the game is switched off, the reality kicks back in.

this is a very deep and worthwhile
question for many of us here to ask
ourselves I feel.

For me........im still learning.

I watch many people, within and outside
the spectrum running from their
problems, such busy-a-holics end up
getting ill.

On the other hand I see being like my
self attempting to face all my stuff
head on and end up getting just as ill.

I can see the wisdon of embracing the
hard work of facing oneself alongside
the need for rest and pleasure.

I just focus on the moment I am in if stress gets really bad...when I do that, all the fear, worry anger.etc disipates.

Also while under high stress times, I try to have as much fun as possible to fill my inner well of emotional reserve...it works to keep from getting totally run down.

But the best way to deal is a combination of creative problem solving to resolve the stressor if at all possible and healthy escapism when not dealing dirrectly with the problem.

I unplug my phone and listen to my music.

I usually just turn away to something else and refuse to do anything at all with whatever it is either until things settle down a bit or I have a specific and reasonable course of action planned.

Depends on the stressor.

Usually involves focussing down, some temporary isolation enough to settle.

Once down from peak I can try to work on the issue.

I'll strength train and bench press or go for a run.
If the stress gets really bad, I retreat to my bedroom and listen to music.

Stim. Listen to music. Talk to my mother.

It's a very good question and as quaker said very deep and worthwhile
question for many of us, but it upsets me to much to answer.

I cope, that's all I can say.

Years ago read a book called How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie which provided some helpful insights into the topic.

I tackle another, but less stressful problem that's been hovering in the background for some time. It doesn't seem all that bad now. Once it's taken care of, I can return, with a sense of accomplishment and perhaps some fresh insight to the Big Problem. Still no solution? I turn to another secondary problem.

Some Big Problems never get solved, but at least I can use the energy they generate to move forward in the areas where movement is possible.

For the most part it's just playing music....But I wish it was someone just cuddling me..

By hating people.

It really depends on the situation. I've found that a lot of the time if I just turn off thinking entirely, that can help.

I like to stab a water melon between 50 to 100 times and eat leftover chunks if there are any.

I use creativity. For explain, right now, something (it's kind of personal) is stressing me out a lot, so I am going to make a short movie about it. I have also written (or half-written) songs about things that are stressing me out.

I also listen to music. I love it when a song fits your current life situation very well.