Getting Invited To Parties?

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Hey everybody, as a senior in high school, I want to get the best out of my last year (well it's December, so the second semester) and to do that I'm wanting to get invited to parties. So, basically, if i were to grade my social skills it would be a B- and I have a lot of friends, but I'm wondering why I never get invited to their parties. I suppose it could be because they know that even though I'm a nice person, I'm not a genuine partying type, and a close friend of mine said that I should try being "more outgoing", if that's the case how do I get to be outgoing?

You are diagnosed many years earlier than I. Therefore, your mileage may vary.

'You are not a genuine partying type'. You can learn to fake it. I can fake it very well. It took me years of rejection and trial and error to finally be able to deal with a good party without screwing something up. I can fit in well, most of the time, for a time.

That's the thing though. I am not a genuine partying type. I can't do it for long.

NTs are refreshed by parties. I am drained by one. It is just a matter of time before I MUST withdraw or meltdown.

Or do drugs. Don't go there. It isn't worth it.

If you are like me, you will do better as the bartender. You meet hot chicks. You don't have to do too much mingling, and you can keep the topic of conversation logical when you need to. You can witness the center of the spectacle from the fringe.

There is another bonus. No one picks on the bartender.

So, when attending parties, do you experience withdrawal/meltdowns from socialization and/or the sensory overload involved?



Well, chances are, at a high school party, there's alcohol that's likely to be there, and cannabis has always been a good friend for social interaction. Frankly, in my experiences with spending time with insufferable family members, the social benefits of being intoxicated are far more greater than the cons.

Traditionally speaking, alcohol is a tried and tested loosener of inhibitions. But in my experience there's a fine line between drinking enough so as to provide sufficient 'Dutch courage' and making a fool of oneself.

If you do indulge, try not to overdo it, and make sure that you get a sensible close friend to watch your back, you need to look out for one another so you don't do anything too stupid.

Deep down I'm a fairly shy person who's had to become more confident and sociable, or at least pretend to be, so it's what I've always relied on.

But that being said, my main dilemma is not the extent of intoxication at these parties, but getting invited to them and I'm not sure how...

TBH, you're better off using your time to do something constructive, instead of making a fool of yourself and damaging your health with loud music in the background.

Of course, you could try throwing a party yourself. Someone might even invite you back.

If you're not a genuine partying type, then why do you want to go to parties?

Take it from me my friend. Parties are SOOO overrated by the media. I have been to plenty at college. Every one I've went to, I just walk out with the same friends I had when I walk in. And its not like the women fall all over you or anything. I've sat in a couple laps, kissed a couple of times, that's about all I've ever gotten from women at parties. You're better off finding a girlfriend if thats what you want from parties. Other than that, its just people being drunk and high. I grew out of it. If you can go to a couple to see what its like, great, but don't worry about that now. Just wait till college. You have to try hard NOT to go to a party.

I wouldn't want to go to a party. A load of idiots getting drunk and high, dancing to crap, loud music that goes "unts unts unts unts unts unts unts unts unts unts unts" for 10 minutes I've never been to a party, I've only seen them on TV programs and the endless catalogue of shallow (sometimes funny, though) American high school movies.

I used to party a lot. I got really tired of it. People kept inviting me and I generally don't answer my phone anymore. Now, they don't bother so much and my life doesn't feel any emptier. Additionally all the friends I made in my partying days are worthless sacks of s**t

So, when attending parties, do you experience withdrawal/meltdowns from socialization and/or the sensory overload involved?

I don't go to parties unless I have a job to do while I am there. That allows me to withdraw and focus when I need to without offending anyone. This allows me to mitigate the meltdowns and keep them out of the public eye.

Pot is wonderful in moderation.

There are other drugs that will make you feel sociable and feel wonderful. In my experience, they aren't worth it.

I could never be intoxicated and do a job. Since I only go to parties if I have a job to do, I do not get intoxicated at parties. I find it makes it more likely that I am invited to the next party.

I hate to tell you something as generic as "be yourself" because I can't stand when people tell me something that vague, but just do things which are comfortable to you. Then again going outside of one's comfort zone also can yield the greatest rewards, and I assure you the greatest rewards are not at high school parties.

I'm not the partying type though I went partying 3 nights a week my freshman -sophomore years of college and got it out of my system. I was not a partier in high school and wanted to get into that scene...and when college came I jumped right in, made friends, got really really drunk a lot and had my share of fun but I realized its just not for me. I'm more of a chill guy who wants 3-4 friends, a few beers and to hang out rather than RAGE at a kegger. If your not getting invited to your friends parties what kind of friends are those? Fish for an invite

I can't stand being at a party and don't drink. The alcohol seems to calm down my senses, so I dont get overwhelmed by the people, the noise, ++.

I'm really not the partying type, though i prefer going to a party over going out on a nightclub/bar.

College = Lots and lots and lots of parties. I go to a party every week, as opposed to never in secondary school. I don't think parties are overrated, they are great now and again, but to be honest a party every month is enough for most.

Here in Ireland any schmuck can get with a good looking girl occasionally by being at a party (in the few months I've been in college, I've came close to getting with one girl on the first week, and I got with another a month ago, despite the fact I have the social skills of a cockroach and the looks to boot ). So, my point is parties are great for women/ getting drunk, but if you really don't care about either of them I'll recommend the two alternatives; quite drinks with actual friends, or just staying sober and watching a DVD