No one is really normal, yet we're expected to be

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Not just AS-related, but something that seems to affect nearly everyone in society. When I mention society, I'm talking about America, as I can't speak for the rest of the world. Society has these social rules and norms that they seem to expect everyone to follow. It's one thing to expect people to follow them, but it's another thing to give people all kinds of trouble for not following them. No one is “normal”, yet society doesn't seem to understand that at times. No two people are gonna be into the exact same entertainment, fashion, music, and more. While this is mostly among high school students, I also noticed a good amount of adults who seem to play into this as well, that is, giving people trouble for not being into the same things they are into.

Has it not be noticed after all these years of how people are different, in America alone? There is no one “right” way to live as many people would have others believe. There is no one size fits all. Different people have different ways of living. What's so hard to understand about that? Even if people do understand, certain ones goes to great lengths to alienate those don't fit a certain norm. Whatever happened to live and let live? As long as someone else's lifestyle isn't hurting someone else, then why should one care what the others do?

If people don't like how I spend a lot of time playing video games, oh well, not my problem. They make it into their own problem despite it not directly affecting them or harming them. Hey, if some of y'all can sit down watching TV all day, then I can play my video games all day. I noticed “Get a life” is used when someone else doesn't fit that person's idea of how one should live. Again, no one is “normal” and we are all unique in our own ways, yet society seems to insist otherwise. Why attempt to act “normal” other then to fit in with false friends? By that I mean acting like someone your not just to befriend someone who wouldn't even be your friend in the first place if you acted like yourself. This is coming from my own personal experience, so what I said above may not hold truth for many others.

Societal norms are merely averages. There is no one true definition of normalcy, it just comes from the matching aspects of the majority of a social group. Anyways, just keep doing whatever you feel like, and if anyone tells you that you need to act normally, you can always tell them that you're a perfectly normal aspie.

Nice post. Many people often don't even realize that how they contribute to this. They may have behaviors themselves that are unusual or many "normal" people would consider strange (such as only watching one particular movie to the exclusive of others, or over-obsesssion regarding past events, or compulsively lying), but would scoff angrily at any suggestion that perhaps they themselves are perhaps not absolutely average in every respect (except perhaps intelligence, which most people believe they are above average in). These same persons will quickly then turn around and label you as odd or even unacceptable for anything that they regard as offensive to them, and even make up entire theories as to why these offensive behaviors exist.