did they think I was a hypochondriac? try another place?

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I did my first appointment ever today which only lasted 45 minutes and no
couch to relax on, unlike the movies :\

I forgot to mention many things I was going to and wonder if he thought I was
just trying to fake having Asperger's or make whatever I do have into that.

I did tell him I thought I had that and he asked why, I kinda froze up and
only gave a few minor things. I was quite nervous for some reason.

At some point he also mentioned I don't have a problem explaining myself and
talking to him or making eye contact. I stated that when there is an
established relationship it's not much of a problem. Also I couldn't think of
an example of how I missed or didn't interperet body language correctly. I also
picked a bad example for really getting into a hobby and understated it also.

I had been thinking of what to say and that all went out the window. Not
trying to think what would best exemplify what I think I have so much as I have
so much to talk about or issues at hand. I couldn't explain how I walk funny
when bored sometimes either.

I did leave him a stack of tests I had taken.

I definitely didn't explain well at all my attempt at making a friend. I just
said I thought she was interested in more then friends which she wasn't and said
conversation seemed one sided. I didn't explain that she thought I threw a fit
when i didn't get my way or just went silent.

I didn't mention I think I may view the world in a child like manner as far as
observing everything and even interacting via touch with no apparent joy
forthcoming from it.

As for overthinking things and analyzing he asked why I think I do and I said
I think it's just how I am.

He said I possibly have social or general anxiety and probably a self
confidence issue. And I have some thought about fear of something happening or
negative thing about myself that is probably unjustified and causes the anxiety.

So, my question is, because I no longer want to be alone after 29 years should
I try someone else also? Was it just too early to tell or didn't want to lead
me on? Or does he not have enough experience with this in adults? I can't be a
hypochondriac as I thought I was fine until I finally did meet someone I had
common interests with and still failed. Iv'e only had like 5 friends.

How did other's first meetup go that were pretty sure that they had Aspergers?

I pretty much totally dominated the conversation. I had a long litany of things and I just opened up the floodgates and let it rip. I went in REALLY well prepared, with a list of things on my lap top to keep me on track, prepared answers for possible objections and specific examples in mind as they related to different criteria in the DSM-IV.

Come to think of it, it was all very aspie.

I'm not sure what we're going to talk about now that I've made my case and he agrees with me.

Thanks, I should have made a list too. I brought in a stack of tests I took but didn't mention it until the time was up. I thought I knew what to talk about but I got really nervous and kinda locked up. I was talking but it was scattered maybe and not as detailed as I would have liked. I gave a really dumb answer to the spirituality question. I also didn't expect to be asked for examples of not picking up on signs and body language so I couldn't think of any. I think I don't even notice them at all. I didn't even mention my lack of emotional expression. He thought I made eye contact and could talk about myself quite well enough, but my brain was going too fast maybe and it's different when there is an established relationship. I make words come out that make sense but they aren't really expressive of what I really was trying to say :\

So I assume that was just recently? How many appointments did it take? How often did you have to wait between them? I'm like a worried, nervous, analytical wreck. Trying to reevaluate everything and wonder how others view the world if it's not like I do.

your experience sounds alot like part of how I have envisioned my up coming appointment with a psychologist going. I'm still a bit insecure in my belief that I am an aspie and I can see how my answers and reactions to that type of questioning might be similar. I want to relax and put some sort of faith into getting the right diagnosis no matter what it is... but at the end of the day I'm a little nervous about not understanding the questions they ask and letting my nerves get the best of me and end up back tracking or down playing things i think are important.

I tend to think being a hypochondriac can almost certainly be a serious medical problem. Especially given that it is distinct from factitious disorder/malingering.

Oddly enough, it seems like the very communication problems that make you suspect you may be autistic are the ones that are contributing to your ineffective communication with the person who is trying to evaluate you... Perhaps you could get a second opinion and write down what happened at the first meeting, the things you didn't really manage to communicate, and why you suspect the first person didn't get all the information you needed to communicate, so that you want a second opinion.