? regarding hand posturing and the gay community.

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You know the stereotype. Gay men, especially those who are effeminate, often walk with their arm splayed out from their side with their their hand drooped over. I'd post a link or image to an example but I don't have those forum privileges yet (been a member a few weeks but have only posted 3 days. 2 more to go).

Do you suppose this could be because there is a greater incidence of Asperger's in in the gay community? That these gay gentlemen are simply manifesting physical characteristics of the disorder?

Before I ever suspected myself to ever have Asperger's I used to get accused quite often by my ex partner as having mannerism of an effeminate man. My arm and body posturing was exactly that of a 'stereotyped gay male'.

I've always done it too, particularly when in certain states of mind I think as it is not a constant thing.. I've often had people point out to me that I am doing it and I hadn't even noticed..
I'm quite sure its always the same hand too for some reason (my right).
I also do the pinky out thing while drinking from anything that doesn't have a handle, lol..

Oh, yes! I am quite tired of being accused of being a snob every time I drink a beverage. My son (16 months, turkey baster in case you're wondering ) splays his pinky, too. He is quite social, though. The pediatrician (who doesn't know I suspect myself to have Asperger's) says it would be impossible for him to be on the spectrum because of his social skills. She's an idiot. I wear make up. That is supposedly impossible if you ask some doctors. Doctors are idiots! I should be a doctor, if for no other reason but to prove them all wrong.

I agree, doctors are idiots, I avoid them as much as possible.
I actually started looking into aspergers a few years back because someone suggested to me that my adopted daughter may be on the spectrum.. I had the unexpected surprise of finding it explained a lot about ME.. So here I am
She's now 6, very social - as in, wants to be social, tries to be social.. However she tries way too hard, the other kids all think she is younger than they are, and her obsession with astroboy and her trying to get the other kids to play her game her way.. Is a growing issue. Since her pre-primary teachers neglected to tell me about these social issues until the last couple of weeks last year when I asked them why she was trying to get out of going to school (the other kids were getting nasty) I'm currently working on having her new teacher let me know if things are getting worse or better so that I can take action (e.g. try for a diagnosis) if neccessary.. Hard to know if its not just trauma with her though as she had a bad start.

Sorry, went way off topic there, I do that

all my life i have had people disrespecting me because of my effeminacy, which i tried but failed to suppress. i just cannot be other than how i was made by my creator. i couldn't act "macho" if my life depended on it.

Me too! And I use the quote button entirely way too much. Ha!

Back to hand posturing, lol!

...... and now I'm at a loss for words.

http://hubpages.com/hub/Signs-You-May-be-a-Flaming-Gay

g'day mate, i'd put a shrimp on the barbie for you if i could.

I would think its the other way around, that aspies are more likely to be gay.

It wasn't a question of whether or not Aspies are more or less likely to be gay or not. It was an observation. Yes, Aspies are more likely to be gay than non Aspies.

To clarify:

This thread is about hand posturing, not about the percentage of Aspies who are gay. I have observed that gay people and people with Asperger's have the same hand posturing and I question if there is a relationship.

I hope this clears up any questions regarding that.