What do you think of bars, night clubs, and drinking?

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I cant stand it! I hate the feeling I get after having even 2 beers, that sick to my stomach feeling, you know? Yet NTs my age seem to LOVE extremely loud places, drinking until they puke, and having sexual relations with a different woman every week. I find this lifestyle to be disgusting, am I weird?

Is it weird to rather want to go to a book club on a Friday night? Or to just go bowling, or something thats a little more RELAXING than going out, getting hammered, and making it a "mission" to bang some drunk sloppy girl on a Friday night?

I want to meet a respectable woman, who craves the things I do. A long term meaningful relationship. Sure I enjoy sex, but isnt sex 10 times better than when its with someone you care about, rather than some cheap drunk girl who sleeps around with 10 other guys?

Am I weird? Where can I go Friday nights? I am tired of bars and tired of meeting people who have no substance. I am a handsome man who can hold a conversation but I have some quirks because of my A.S. but I just KNOW there HAS to be a group somewhere or something where I can relate to people of like mind!

Any suggestions? And am I alone in hating the bar scene?

I think of them as little as possible.

I too, hate the bar scene. I always found it strange that the bartender always seemed to relate to everyone, the exact opposite of me. So I would sit quietly observing all of the interactions the bartender engaged in, and they are non-stop. I also found the idea of random hook-ups with drunk girls as a turn-off. The more alcohol I consumed, the more talkative I seemed to be and at first I found that fun but it got old fast. I feel like a drunk version of myself is even more awkward than the sober version. Other than online, its hard to think of a "good" place to meet people other than a bar/club. I have met people at coffee shops, live music events, and various other public places that didn't include alcohol.

I can't stand drinking and I hated bars because they were smokey, now the smoking ban has taken place. Night clubs, I have never been to one and it doesn't interest me. Sounds like a social gathering thing.

Only social gathering I will go to is the autism groups.

You can go to a book store or to a movie or go to the mall and look around or out to eat that isn't a bar or night club.

People like that are constantly bored and need entertainment. Not good.

The general answer around here will be 'i dislike clubs and bars' because they're filled with people and on a whole we're not people people.

This is me. Succinctly put.

I don't go to bars, but I used to when I had a roommate who had a regular hangout, and I met my then-boyfriend there. There are a lot of different kinds of bars. Not all of them are the kind you describe. There are neighborhood bars where regulars come to talk and see each other and that don't have loud music or a pick-up scene. I don't know if you would enjoy them, but if you are looking for something to do on Friday nights you could seek out different kinds of establishments and you might find some that are not so bad.

I've heard "book store" mentioned several times now. How exactly do you meet people there? Do you just sit down and read, and hope someone starts a conversation with you? Do you roam the book aisles and look for a girl, then try to start a conversation with her (sounds kinda stalkerish)?

May seem like obvious questions, but yes I am that socially inept.

I also hate all of bars, night clubs, and drinking. I have friends who always want to dress up purrrrrrrty and go clubbing. Ick. I know people who consider drinking the end-all be-all of social interaction.

Some bars have event nights, like trivia pursuit tournaments on the same night every week. Those can be fun when most people are there to play instead of get drunk and hook up.

Oh, and I don't have any advice on where to meet a woman for a meaningful relationship.

But you might meet them anywhere. So just do the things you like to do and see what happens.

I met my husband at University and got to know him online (way back in the early 90's) before I'd ever have been able to speak to him. A very short distance online romance - across a computer room!

I would hate it.

I tried and I gave up. There's nothing what could interest me. It even disgusts me. I keep away from it as far as I can.

I never understood how going out to a club or bar and getting drunk could be considered "fun"... But, most young NTs seem to think it is...

Ya. To get drunk, scream as loud as thay can, destroy something, behave like idiots, enjoy the hangover and auction who has drunk more next day. It's the exact description of NT fun. Highly illogical!

I would never go to a bar or night club all by myself. I might consider going if it's with a friend, though. However, I've always been turned off by the bar/club scene because there are too many people and it's too loud.

I don't mind social meet-ups, as long as there's not that many people and it's in a more respectable environment.