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05 Mar 2011, 2:51 am

Online dating has become very popular. I wonder if any on WP has ever tried it? I would like to hear about your experience.



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05 Mar 2011, 3:09 am

I dated several people who I met on dating websites but most didn't work out. I am now engaged to someone who I met on a dating website. So it can be very successful.



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05 Mar 2011, 4:08 am

One of my friends met the love of her life on a forum. It took them a year before they had the opportunity to meet. I guess it was worth the wait because they lived happily ever after!



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05 Mar 2011, 4:39 am

I know someone who met their wife on a dating site.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:35 am

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05 Mar 2011, 6:36 am

It can be good if you find people in your area but where I live is not very common among young people, so you'd find mostly old creeps looking for young girls or those who want to have sex online which I don't like.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:38 am

It's pretty terrible. I've been on various sites for about a year now and haven't had one date.



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05 Mar 2011, 9:11 am

The most success I've had so far has been with Eharmony, have had several dates over the past few years. The only down side is that you will be getting match after match that you're wondering "Why did they send me this?" with the upside being - some of them will contact you and it won't always be quite as off-point as you originally thought.

I've also tried OKCupid, looked much more promising but one definite problem - no one responds, I can understand perhaps two or three rejected conversations per each accepted but this so far for me is fourteen and zero, its phenomenal. An NT acquaintence of mine mentioned last time the internet dating topic came up that the women who are available online are still single not because they haven't found the one but because their expectations are so far out of the ballpark, so its really all off limits anyway. Seems like that may not be far from the truth.

In all I think you'll have better luck with a pay site like Eharmony or Match.com, not that I've tried Match.com but what I think they have in common is that its a pay site, people who are willing to pay are of a different mindset, ie. they're willing to put work in and really figure themselves out rather than just post a pic, profile, and see who's willing to flatter them today until either a big buffed blonde haired blue eyed man named Lance comes along or, possibly the other way around, until that perfect dime Brazilian swim model sees a picture of his lazy beer-gut having arse and says "Wow - just my type!".


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05 Mar 2011, 9:22 am

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've also tried OKCupid, looked much more promising but one definite problem - no one responds, I can understand perhaps two or three rejected conversations per each accepted but this so far for me is fourteen and zero, its phenomenal. An NT acquaintence of mine mentioned last time the internet dating topic came up that the women who are available online are still single not because they haven't found the one but because their expectations are so far out of the ballpark, so its really all off limits anyway. Seems like that may not be far from the truth.



Most guys there are using online dating as last resort since they're unable to find dates in real life.

There's definitely major reasons why a guy wouldn't have dates in real life , he would certainly have very undesired traits.

Most girls there are using online dating as last resort because they have very high standards to the extent that they're finding no one with such qualities in real life.

Let alone the unbalanced gender ratio.

Can you see the friction here? That's why online dating is horrible.



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05 Mar 2011, 9:43 am

I use OK Cupid and have gotten a bunch of dates, but no one I really "clicked" with.

I still have my profile up, but I don't really "work" it anymore...

IRL, or at least a non-dating focused online forum is always preferrable IMO.



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05 Mar 2011, 10:25 am

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IRL, or at least a non-dating focused online forum is always preferrable IMO


Definatly, I don't think this online dating malarky is for me TBH even though i've made some new friends through it, which is always a plus


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05 Mar 2011, 12:08 pm

Grisha wrote:
IRL, or at least a non-dating focused online forum is always preferrable IMO.


What do you do if you don't know anybody IRL? Maybe I am desperate because of that, but I'm going to keep my OKC account until I find what I want... it's the only option I have left.



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05 Mar 2011, 12:49 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
Grisha wrote:
IRL, or at least a non-dating focused online forum is always preferrable IMO.


What do you do if you don't know anybody IRL? Maybe I am desperate because of that, but I'm going to keep my OKC account until I find what I want... it's the only option I have left.


I don't really know many people IRL either, but it's gitten to the point that I don't even think about it too much anymore - if it happens, it happens, whatever. I kept my OKC account open too, can't hurt right?

How many minutes do you think it will be before someone chimes in "You'll find someone if you just stop looking?"

What a load of crap... :roll: :wink:



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05 Mar 2011, 12:50 pm

you'll find someone when you st- i almost fell for it. :wink:



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05 Mar 2011, 1:12 pm

I meet most people from the Internet but through just regular webcommunities, not dating sites.



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05 Mar 2011, 1:22 pm

What's funny is, I was about to put dating in the back of my mind. Just too many bad dates. Then I went to an adult support group for other people with AS. I didn't even know these existed! I met someone there and have been on a few dates. Even if doesn't work out, I at least know I can be compatible with an Aspie. It opens new possibilities.