I don't know why I react like that
Kiran
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Joined: 17 Jun 2010
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I rarely get hit on by or have a guy interested in me, but every time it happens I react in a very strange way: I complitly freeze. It's like someone punched me in the stomach, I'm in chock and I can't breathe. It's almost like a panic attack. I remenber one time in a store two guys walked up to me and one of the guys said something like '' my friend likes you''. I complitly panicked, said ''oh, okay'' and walked away. I felt so rude. I didn't want to hurt his feelings, but I was panicking and I had to get out of that situation or I was gonna have a panick attack. I don't know why I react like that when a guy is interested in me! Has anyone here ever had this problem? Did you ever figure out why? Because I have no clue.
This is making me kinda depressed. How am I ever be able to have a relationship when I panick when someone simply say they like me?
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The modern artist is working with space and time, and expressing his feelings rather than illustrating
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YES!
The only thing you can do is practice. Imagine several scenarios where someone says that they like you or that you look pretty or that they like something you're wearing or whatever. And consider what you would say in return. Practice different ways to say it until it sounds friendly and natural.
You'll be better equipped to respond to someone in that situation if you prepare.
Kiran
Velociraptor
Joined: 17 Jun 2010
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 443
Location: Somewhere in Scandinavia
The only thing you can do is practice. Imagine several scenarios where someone says that they like you or that you look pretty or that they like something you're wearing or whatever. And consider what you would say in return. Practice different ways to say it until it sounds friendly and natural.
You'll be better equipped to respond to someone in that situation if you prepare.
I never imagine things like that. I don't ever expect anyone to be attracted to me. That might be why it always comes as a chock when it happens. I don't get why anybody would find me attractive, but apparently some people do, so I'll try your advice.
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The modern artist is working with space and time, and expressing his feelings rather than illustrating
- Jackson Pollock
This is making me kinda depressed. How am I ever be able to have a relationship when I panick when someone simply say they like me?
I react this way to a very good news like I passed an examination or some thing else. I think that this due to not being in such situation very often in our lives coupled with our social anxieties. The first reason can be overcome by imagining these situations as wefunction has mentioned.