Winning Competitions

Post Reply New Topic

I am not sure if this is an addiction, or is just because I have aspergers. I care about winning too much, sometimes I lose the entire context of the reason why I am being there in the first place. This doesn't matter if it's just basketball, body building, code-a-thon, or any other sort of competition. Winning is what drives me, and I often like to put it to the losers face when I win, only feeling bad afterwards.

And when I lose, it always shut me down for a couple of days =( This all started during college when I got a tatoo chinese characters "seek to win" on my left arm, reminding myself to be the winner.

Does anybody else here have the same problem?

I used to have this problem and then I quit caring. I don't care anymore about winning or losing, it's just a game and you are playing for fun.

I don't really care, but when i do win i can help but gloat a little (or a lot if the other person didn't expect me to win ).

I am so super competitive that I will not participate in a single event. People used to think I hated sports but really I hated losing, and I may have been horrible at sports too.
I'm even competitive with about how much I know about a special interest.
I used to hate multi player video games too because when people beat me I wanted to secretly hurt them. Make them pay for humiliating me. But I'm not like that anymore.
Maybe it does have something with being autistic because instead of just having fun with another person and bonding I have one goal in mind - to win at all costs and if I lose...basically, run.

When I was young, I was hyper-competitive. Now I over-compensate, and will purposely do more poorly to not make the other person feel bad. I would get in the face of someone who taunted someone who lost; anyone who does that is filth in my book.

The only person you ever really compete with is yourself. If I entered an arm wrestling contest with a bunch of body builders and got stomped, then went to a kindergarden and dominated, my arm strength is the same in both contests. I didn't do better or worse in either of them. Feeling bad about the first contest or good about the second one is silly, the only difference was my competition, not me.

I quit judo at 7 and viet vo dao at 8 , just before the belt competitions, because I couldn't bear the idea of competition itself. The only ones I've been to are the horseback riding ones, for a few years even, because you're not judged as compared to other people, just your own ability. Not only do I not "care" about winning, I hate the thought of "trying to win"..

For me it kind of depends on the situation.

If its a competition that encompasses my usual day to day talents, special talents I become highly competitive because its something I have honed my life to these skills.

If its just a normal competition and doesn't make me feel as if I have to prove something of myself. I usually do fine. And am not a very competitive person naturally.

I'm not competitive but I always have to be right. I mean I don't care about competing or wining but if I'm having a discussion or an argument about something I know or have a strong opinion on a subject I find it hard to let go or to let others win even if it means upsetting someone

I have a compulsion to always win/be right.

I don't know how much of it is AS and how much is the result of growing up in an abusive environment where no matter what I did to please others and be the best, I was always told it was never enough.

I remember hearing my ex and form on here that aspies always have to be right. Annoying trait.

I also read in a book (I forget what it's called) about how aspies have a hard time with losing because they get upset if they lose. I used to be that way as a child. That's why I hated multiplayer games and then I stopped getting so upset in my teens if I sucked at a game. After seeing how my aspie mate was acting about losing, it looked pathetic so I decided to stop it because I didn't want to be that way. I also remember reading about poor sport in 5th grade and I learned it doesn't mean sucking in sports, it means not taking it well when you aren't winning.

I don't care about winning. I don't do anything with the objective of winning some competition. If I win I tend to not feel that excited about it and if I lose I don't find it a big deal either.

I dislike participating in competitions and it annoys me when people try to turn everything into a competition. I tend to see more importance or fun in the actual activity than in the competition or results.

I find people extra annoying when they are competing. So many people get obsessed with winning and talk about nothing else. When people win they tend to brag about it excessively and put down those who lost and in general act very annoying. When people lose they tend to get really sore and pissed off, complain about unfair judges/conditions and so on and are generally pretty annoying too. So most of the time I'd just rather not participate in competitions. I feel that the excessive competitive spirit in other people tends to ruin all the fun for me.

I hate losing and hate being wrong. Part of the sociopath in me I'd assume.

I'm competitive with myself but not so much with other people, if I lose to people I feel I'm better than I'm gutted but if I lose to people who I admire for being better than me I'm happy to lose to them and would probably be gutted for them if they didn't beat me.