Obsessed with Grammar

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I find myself becomming more worked up over Grammar. People used to speak very eloquentley, before the Late 1960s. Now everybody seems to be talking like a bunch of 16 Year Olds, making everything sound like Questions. Even people who are almost in their 60s. I speak in a more traditional way, because that's the way I feel comfortable, and I speak to people the way that I wish to be spoken to. People can speak however they wish, when they're talking to one another. However, I would like them to mirror my Grammar, when they're talking to me. I've even brought it up with various people. They seem to understand for a day, but after that, it doesn't make a difference to them. I also get confused when people call objects "Thingies", instead of calling them by their proper names. Am I the only person in North America who feels this way?

well i haven't had that problem before but latley what ive been obsessed about is handwriting and writing my name over and over again in cursive. its silly really and i dont know why im so facinated with it. hopefully it will go away soon. haha

No, you're not the only one. Grammatical and spelling errors catch my attention nearly every day, and they seem to be proliferating. I can't help wincing when I see them in print (which seems to bother me more than the ones I hear).

I'm guesstimating that 95% of our population were exposed to clearly delineated grammatical rules in school. Lack of interest in learning the rules doesn't change their validity. They are a well-established standard for spoken or written communication. Why can't NTs respect these rules? Is it just inconvenient to learn all of them when there are so much more interesting ways to occupy their time? Or is it a cultural preference to show disrespect for rules in general?

Or maybe they see English as a dead, foreign language like Latin. Most of the language we hear from friends, family and TV is so idiomatic that it bears little resemblance to textbook English. This theme of the "bastardization" of the English language was explored by BIll Bryson in his book "The Mother Tongue: English And How It Got That Way" in which he expounds on the theory that the language should be perceived as evolving rather than deteriorating.

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I guess I'm obsessed with grammar as well, as I look for it in absolutely everyone's speech.

And it isn't just grammar. It's dialect, and the pronunciation of words, because here in Scotland many people of course speak in a way that differs (with vastly varying degrees of difference, for different people) from standard British English, or what is called Scottish Standard English.

This isn't to say the dialect and pronunciation - even the grammar - used is wrong, in any way. It certainly isn't - it's regional usage, dialect, pronunciation etc. which has evolved, just like language itself has evolved. I'm just obsessively interested in how the dialect of people round here - and the speech of each individual - varies among individuals, and varied from standard English. I'm intrigued by how specific individuals have varying degrees of traditional regional dialect and accent.

I've been brought up to be obsessed with grammar.

My Mum is always complaining when people say things like "Somethink", "Yous people" ect.

I personally can't take it well when someone gets their "there, their and they are" mixed up -__- It isn't too hard to know basic grammar.

Mother went nuts at me when she saw some of my work when I was a kid where I used "there" when it was supposed to be "their".

Glad I'm not the only insane one. ****, my obession with grammar and spelling earned me the nickname of 'Walking Talking Dictionary'.

My guess there will be alot of ASD people who are obsessed with correct English.
I would guess also (is that spelled right?) that a much larger number will be like me
. My first "D" was in English. My first "F" was in English. I went to college for
3 years and took only one English class in the summer at a jr college. One reason
I did not finish college is there was noway I was going to take alot of non-science
classes (I took chemistry, biology, physic, math, computers and a very small number hours of the other basics).

I do get annoyed with poor grammar and pronunciation, certainly - but I seem to have my own style of language (which is generally more evident in my journal entries) so I can't claim to be right when I wish to correct someone I just get internally annoyed but hold my tongue.

It bothers me when people use poor spelling and grammar. My boyfriend's mother is of the uneducated persuasion, and when I talk (or try to talk) to her, I feel like screaming
"You should say 'I DID x', not 'I done x' "